floralfemm3 reblogged
23 things I learned in 2023:
- Breaking promises to yourself is essentially telling yourself you’re not worthy of commitment or effort.
- Listen to people when they tell you who they are.
- People put their best foot forward when they first meet you. If they’re already being shitty, it’s likely only going downhill from here.
- Self-care isn’t always indulging instant gratification and not doing hard things. I was actually at my most fulfilled when I did hard things DESPITE not feeling like it.
- If you’re clinging to other people for fulfillment or validation, you probably don’t like yourself very much.
- It’s never the end of the world like we think it is.
- If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them. Never be in the business of changing people, even when it comes to changing how they think about you.
- Brutally honest communication is everything, but that can also coincide with tactful kindness. Neither is mutually exclusive.
- Having a routine makes a massive difference.
- Comparison is pointless. No one else has been dealt the same cards you’ve been dealt.
- Envy is a waste of time. Instead of being envious of other people, view them as proof of concept.
- Self-accountability is important. We are fallible and it’s okay to make mistakes; we just need to own up to them.
- Every failure is an opportunity for growth.
- Every severed friendship, failed opportunity, lost connection etc etc leaves space for better things to replace it.
- We are not tethered to people’s image of us. We are free to change ourselves whenever we please.
- It’s not other people’s way, but it’s my way—and that’s all that matters.
- Someone denying you love does not erase you.
- Piggybacking off the last point—someone not acknowledging the virtues you have doesn’t mean that you don’t have those virtues.
- All that really matters are the opinions of the handful of people who truly love you, as well as your opinion of yourself.
- Waiting at least 15 minutes before reacting to something. Never trust yourself during the moments when something just hits (learned this the hard way).
- Situations are complex and almost never a one size fits all. Asking for advice is okay, but take it with a grain of salt/ultimately follow your own judgment.
- Social media isn’t the devil, but scrolling endlessly is. Make an intentional effort to supplant screen time with books and hobbies and friends and tangible, real life things.
- We all die one day. None of this is that deep and none of this really matters. Stop taking things so seriously and just enjoy the process 🤍
