Self Forgiveness Quotes

“at some point in a woman’s life, she just gets tired of being ashamed all the time. After that, she is free to become whoever she truly is.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, City of Girls

“I keep wondering how you find compassion for your own self when you go against what's good in you.”
― Anissa Gray, The Care and Feeding of Ravenously Hungry Girls

“One thing is for sure—you will make mistakes. Learn to learn from them. Learn to forgive yourself. Learn to laugh when everything falls apart because, sometimes, it will.”
― Vironika Tugaleva, The Art of Talking to Yourself

“The first and foremost thing is to be loving toward yourself. Don't be hard; be soft. Care about yourself. Learn how to forgive yourself— again and again and again— seven times, seventy-seven times, seven hundred and seventy-seven times.

Learn how to forgive yourself. Don't be hard; don't be antagonistic toward yourself. Then you will flower. And in that flowering you will attract some other flower. It is natural. Stones attract stones; flowers attract flowers. And then there is a relationship which has grace, which has beauty, which has a benediction in it. And if you can find such a relationship, your relationship will grow into prayer, your love will become an ecstasy, and through love you will know what God is.”
― Osho, The Book of Woman

“You can't change what happened, you can't change what you did or what was done to you. But you can choose how you live now.

My precious, you can choose to be free.”
― Edith Eva Eger

“As a soul, you have the freedom – and earned responsibility – to transpose your personal process of evolution, to manifest your greatest talents and vision, into the work that matters to you most as a means to personal redemption.”
― Darrell Calkins

“Forgiveness is really about absolution: to set free. But if you look carefully at the dynamic, the one you’re setting free is yourself.”
― Darrell Calkins

“…one lives and analyses data within a frame, unaware that the solution is most often just outside of that frame. Never underestimate the depth of your subjectivity.”
― Darrell Calkins

“I have forgiven Sonora. I have forgiven New York, forsaken the recursion of history. But I do not yet know how to forgive myself.”
― Hannah Lillith Assadi, Sonora

“We cannot instantaneously force ourselves to forgive—and forgiveness happens at a different pace for everyone and is dependent on the particulars of any given situation.”
― Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection

“Ultimately, we forgive others in order to free ourselves.”
― Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection

“People like to say that we cannot forgive others until we forgive ourselves. Isn't that nice? People like to say all sorts of stupid bumper-sticker things that aren't true and that in fact can be shaming...”
― Anne Lamott, Dusk, Night, Dawn: On Revival and Courage

“Often what we may consider to be sins against ourselves are actually sins against God. For instance, when we condemn ourselves we are playing god. When we worry and fret we are not trusting Him - and that is sinning against God, not against ourselves. Therefore, those are sins against God for Him to forgive.”
― Martin Bobgan, 12 Steps to Destruction: Codependecy/Recovery Heresies

“It's only when we learn from the mistakes that we make that we stop making them”
― Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA

“The action of entering the center point of the labyrinth represents the moment you forgive yourself. This is the action of your own forgiveness and of reclaiming the power, or the impeccability, of your own word--of your own intent.”
― don Miguel Ruiz Jr.

“as one who will continue to practice radical inclusiveness as I fail again and again, I can say it is quite a relief to embrace the limitations of being human.”
― Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“Forgive Yourself for Failings

So, you messed up. Have you taken the steps outlined in this book, such as
mending fences, eating crow, offering a peace pipe, and breaking bread?

If so, then all you can do is get on with your life. You’ve done all you can to
correct the situation. Sometimes we have to just give people space to get over
something—and we have to forgive ourselves, too.

Beating yourself up over and over about a situation only continues to keep the
situation alive, not only in your mind, but in the other person’s mind as well. And it
puts you at risk of making the same mistake again.

If you’ve apologized, tried to restore the trust in the relationship, and changed
your behavior, then you’ve done your part. You’ve adequately taken responsibility,
and that’s something in which you can find honor.

We all mess up with each other from time to time. When you mess up, do the
right thing, then forgive yourself and move on.”
― Robert Dittmer, 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills

“Please remember that the lightning has never apologized for breaking skies open; the ocean has never said sorry for sinking ships. You, as well, must never apologize for being a force of nature. And as you love the lightning and as you love the oceans, so shall you love yourself. The skies are yours, the depths are yours-- that is okay. After all, Immortal is not a small nor simple thing. You'd have to be stupid to think it would be easy.”
― C. JoyBell C., The Conversation of Immortals

“Time spent suffering didn't teach me anything I wanted to learn. But perhaps as time passes, it's possible to learn not to blame yourself. Life is hard enough.”
― Karen Havelin, Please Read This Leaflet Carefully: Keep This Leaflet. You May Need to Read It Again.

“Be quick to forgive so that you don’t carry the cancer of an offense, for such cancer kills the soul in ways that few things do. And of course, forgive yourself, for to not do so is to punish yourself without consideration that such punishment always far exceeds the nature of the crime (if in fact there was ever a crime at all).”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“I nod to say good-bye, and I almost believe she’s nodding back at me.
But she’s not.
It’s me nodding. Me nodding to her, and to myself. When I stand, I see the shape of my legs reflected in the stone. I step backward. Backward. Backward until I can’t see my image there anymore. Then I turn and walk away.”
― Jo Knowles, Lessons from a Dead Girl

“In the distance, I see Web and Jess leaning against Web’s car. When they see me coming, they wave, as if I wouldn’t be able to find them in the nearly empty lot. I wave back, smiling for the first time I can remember. And then, instead of walking back to them, I start to run.”
― Jo Knowles, Lessons from a Dead Girl

“Forgive yourself.
So, you did a thing that you've named wrong, or the world has named wrong, or a loved one has named wrong. or some powerful dudes who compiled a book of parables and myths thousands of years ago named wrong.

How entirely human of you. 

Own it all. Stand in the truth of it. Make the apology you need to make to close your own open wound. Do what you can to stanch the flow of blood in the others. And then be done.

Listen to me, now.  Your atonement was never intended to be a full-time job.”
― Jeanette LeBlanc

“I know you are good. You befriended me, of all people.
Can you blame yourself for how you behaved after a head injury and grief and fear garbled your mind?
I only blame you for not sharing this burden.
The cruelties of this world extend beyond what others do to us; they extend into the decisions we make when we are in no fit state to make them. Extend into our regrets and remorse's tendency to make the smallest of our mistakes into monstrous walls we cannot clamber over.”
― Leah Thomas, Nowhere Near You

“Sometimes it's about working with your bad parts, not fixing them.”
― Leah Thomas, Nowhere Near You

“A major issue with estrangement is that it really is a two-fold forgiveness journey. It’s never just one side’s fault … so there’s an absolute necessity to forgive oneself for all and any parental failures, and it’s also necessary
to totally forgive the offspring for all and any nasty experiences of being cancelled, ghosted, e-blanked, ignored, rejected, avoided at Christmas and Father’s Day, the toxicity, angst, and all the other painful words that come to mind.”
― Roger Macdonald Andrew

“when highly respected Roman poet Ausonius says “Forgive many things in others; nothing in yourself” we might feel that that’s rather harsh. It might be more in line with current thinking to say: “Forgive many things in others; as well as in yourself.” There is a strong argument that it’s essential to find ways to forgive yourself … so that you can then forgive others.”
― Roger Macdonald Andrew, Forgive: Finding Inner Peace Through Words of Wisdom

“We have all hurt someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. We have all loved someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. it is an intrinsic human trait, and a deep responsibility, I think, to be an organ and a blade. But, learning to forgive ourselves and others because we have not chosen wisely is what makes us most human. We make horrible mistakes. It's how we learn. We breathe love. It's how we learn. And it is inevitable.”
― Nayyira Waheed

“Do not lament over your past, but rather look at the beauty of your future.”
― Paching Hoé Lambaiho, Words of the Shaman: 50 Quotes from Paching Hoé Lambaiho

“Have confidence in yourself, and start again.”
― Paching Hoé Lambaiho, Words of the Shaman: 50 Quotes from Paching Hoé Lambaiho