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Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior & Character in 5 Days Audible Audiobook – Unabridged

Dr. Kevin Leman (Author), William Sarris (Narrator), christianaudio.com (Publisher)
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Anyone who has dealt with a strong-willed child knows that it is no easy task to turn bad behavior around. But the popularity of TV programs like Supernanny and Nanny 911 shows that parents have had it up to here and are ready to try anything to get their children to behave. Best-selling author and psychologist Dr. Kevin Leman is here to help.

Have a New Kid by Friday shows parents how to reverse negative behavior in their children - fast! With his signature wit and encouragement, Dr. Leman offers hope and real, practical, doable strategies for regaining control and becoming the parents they always wanted to be. Focusing on changing a child's attitude, behavior, and character, it contains chapters for each day of the week and a special section with advice on everything from rolling eyes to sibling rivalry to talking back to punching walls and much, much more.

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  1. Listening Length
    8 hours and 15 minutes
  2. Author
    Dr. Kevin Leman
  3. Narrator
    William Sarris
  4. Audible release date
    August 18, 2020
  5. Language
    English
  6. Publisher
    christianaudio.com
  7. ASIN
    B08FTKLC6W
  8. Version
    Unabridged
  9. Program Type
    Audiobook
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Listening Length 8 hours and 15 minutes
Author Dr. Kevin Leman
Narrator William Sarris
Whispersync for Voice Ready
Audible.com Release Date August 18, 2020
Publisher christianaudio.com
Program Type Audiobook
Version Unabridged
Language English
ASIN B08FTKLC6W
Best Sellers Rank #79,233 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals)
#236 in Christian Family
#1,003 in Parenting & Families (Audible Books & Originals)
#1,196 in Christian Family & Relationships

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Customers find the book provides practical advice and wisdom for raising children. They describe it as an interesting and powerful read with a simple concept. The methods work well and are described as real advice that works. Readers appreciate the concise and down-to-earth writing style. They also mention the author's humor and love. Overall, customers consider the book a valuable resource and worth the money.

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282 customers mention "Advice quality"261 positive21 negative

Customers find the book provides practical advice and wisdom on how to troubleshoot child behavior. They appreciate the real-life examples and clear explanations. The common sense ideas and effective classroom management techniques are helpful. Readers describe the book as thought-provoking and profound, helping them solve parental stress and help their children improve.

"...There is nothing to lose and everything to gain...." Read more

"...The advice in this book is so practical and makes sense so much it worked overnight for us...." Read more

"...education background, much of this resembles the effective classroom management techniques you may have learned in your education experience and/or..." Read more

"...This book gives you great insight on how to deal with your kids without yelling, bargaining, and helps alleviate the frustration that comes when..." Read more

211 customers mention "Readability"206 positive5 negative

Customers find the book helpful and interesting. They say it's an excellent resource for teachers who have difficult students. The book is a good follow-up to the author's previous book, and they love the idea of the CD.

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"...Dr. Leman's "Have a New Husband by Friday" is also an AMAZING read!! Has saved many of my friends' marriages that were in dire trouble." Read more

"...Yes, he's that good and his books are just as powerful...." Read more

"...Like a good mattress, be soft, yet firm. Great book. I recommend for all parents...." Read more

71 customers mention "Ease of read"66 positive5 negative

Customers find the book easy to understand and simple to read for busy parents. They appreciate the straightforward tips and strategies, with detailed steps for each situation. The concept is simple yet permeates multiple facets of parenting. Readers mention that the book reads quickly and doesn't take long to get through.

"...enforcer (practicing what you preach), this is an easy-to-listen to book of suggestions. Pros:..." Read more

"...me so much regarding how to handles issues with my children, without all the hassle. Recommend this book to anyone!!!" Read more

"...The premise is really pretty simple: Tell your child what you want her to do - once, then turn away and get busy with something else...." Read more

"...I think a lot of the ideas Dr. Leman discusses are fairly straightforward and many of us already want to employ them in our parenting...." Read more

62 customers mention "Functionality"55 positive7 negative

Customers find the book's advice and methods effective. They say it provides practical guidance and a plan that works well. The discs play smoothly in their CD players. Some readers mention the program works best for parents who don't discipline their kids.

"...advice in this book is so practical and makes sense so much it worked overnight for us...." Read more

"...In some instances, I found Lehman's method worked wonders. As a bonus, I found I was a lot less stressed...." Read more

"...discipline theories when our twin boys were 4 years old and it worked immediately!..." Read more

"...Maybe it works well for little kids. But my daughter was 14 at the time (15 now), and I needed to learn to communicate with her!..." Read more

40 customers mention "Writing style"34 positive6 negative

Customers find the book's writing style concise, easy to read, and straightforward. They appreciate the down-to-earth advice and practical strategies that make sense. The author is described as a practical and humorous writer who creates well-mannered adults.

"...The advice in this book is so practical and makes sense so much it worked overnight for us...." Read more

"...The writing style is down to earth and easily understandable...." Read more

"...I found a lot of good, common sense ideas with clear explanations of how to implement them and what to do until they were second nature...." Read more

"I loved this book. Everything makes sense. I have two children, ages 5 and one and a half and I have really been struggling with my 5 year old...." Read more

25 customers mention "Humor"25 positive0 negative

Customers enjoy the humor in the book. They find it logical and entertaining.

"...Just Dr Leman's method. Now, we are a family who has fun, always laughing and full of hugs and kisses. Thank you Dr Leman!!!" Read more

"...We now have a 14 month old son too. Our 6 year old is bright, funny and is considered "smart" and a wonderful student by her teachers who say she's..." Read more

"...her homework without being prompted, she helps around the house, she's funny, sweet, very responsible, goes to church with us without complaining --..." Read more

"...Dr. Leman also injects some humor into his writings which is awesome too. I plan on lending this book to family and friends when I am done with it...." Read more

17 customers mention "Value for money"17 positive0 negative

Customers find the book offers good value for money. They say it's a worthwhile refresher course for children with good examples and rewards.

"...you great insight on how to deal with your kids without yelling, bargaining, and helps alleviate the frustration that comes when handling discipline..." Read more

"...It's definitely worth the money...." Read more

"...But so far, I've had great results. The book is a worthwhile purchase and I do recommend it...." Read more

"...made in our family (w/4 kids between ages 10 and 4) is worth the price of at least 100 books!!!..." Read more

16 customers mention "Pacing"13 positive3 negative

Customers find the book's pacing good. They find the ideas well-presented and the methods simple and effective. The theme resonates with them, and the book keeps their attention. Readers appreciate the candor, wisdom, and down-to-earth style of the author. They also like that the back of the book has different scenarios to help them cope with certain situations. Overall, the book gives them the will to keep going.

"...test yet (my child is a little too young at 3) I think they have a lot of possibilities...." Read more

"...I like that the back of the book has different scenarios, so if you are experiencing a certain type of problem, that index can guide you to the..." Read more

"...still at times do not do what we ask, but it is much better, and much calmer now...." Read more

"Kevin Leman writes in down-to-earth fashion, easily understood language, with injections of humor and practicality...." Read more

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  • Audreyu8
    5.0 out of 5 stars Incredible Results! Every parent needs to read this book.
    Reviewed in the United States on October 25, 2011
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    This wasn't my first parenting book and I was already at a loss with how to deal with my sweet but manipulative child. Along came Dr Leman who encourages and gives the most logical advice that you would think, "Why have I never even thought of that?". I went from being a crazy and stressful mom who wanted to spend time with her daughter but couldn't deal without yelling and losing her temper to having the most relaxing and fun time. Most importantly, I no longer feel guilty.

    If you stick to your guns and mean what you say through action, it will work as little as in 3 days. My daughter is almost 3.5 years old and one of Dr Leman's advice was the younger they are, the easier they are to mold. I had the most terrible first three days when I started. However, I was surprised to see a positive change starting slightly on the 2nd day when again she misbehaved, I said "No" firmly but nicely to her request of her cookie. I asked her, "Why can't you have a cookie tonight?" She replied, "Ame has been naughty. No cookie tonight. Cookie tomorrow." And she went about her business and started playing. By the fourth day, I had a new child. My husband had been working late those few nights when I was using this new method and when he came home early on Thursday, he was flabbergasted. He used to be so stressed and guilty as well and for the first time, we actually thought having a second child might not be so bad after all. :)

    When I first implemented this new discipline, I decided to start on a new bedtime routine whereby I will no longer lay down with her till she falls asleep. I tried that when she was 2.5 and it was a disaster because I would lose my temper after 2 hours of coaxing, scolding and threats, and by that time, I was exhausted. Along with De Leman's approach of showing unconditional love, talking really calmly and consistency in what you say, I would check in on her every 5 minutes, kiss her and tell her we love her. Of course she kept on screaming and crying. But the more we were calm, she slowly became calm and got settled. Progressively, over the next few days, we would up the time to 10 mins at a time and then 15 mins checking on her. Pretty soon, she got used to it and now, she sleeps so well at night for 10.5 hrs at a time and wakes up saying, "I love you Mommy!". Getting to school is a breeze too. Of course there will be times when she tries her old tricks and just one look from me and one question, "Do you want to choose to be a good girl or naughty girl?" This usually gets her thinking fast and replying, "good girl" Of course, she still gets into trouble sometimes but I no longer have to lose my temper or yell. She just loses her privileges and let me tell you, she feels the loss of her privileges all right.

    If you are at a loss like how I was before. Just please pick up this book and start reading and stay strong. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.

    P/S: My relationship with my husband has improved tremendously, not that it was bad before. It was just that we were too stressed with our toddler, coming up with various ways to try to change her. Sometimes, we would even fight over our different methods of discipline. No more of that. Just Dr Leman's method. Now, we are a family who has fun, always laughing and full of hugs and kisses. Thank you Dr Leman!!!
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  • Ruth May
    5.0 out of 5 stars Good
    Reviewed in the United States on December 8, 2024
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    Great book
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  • Matrixlover
    5.0 out of 5 stars Overnight success
    Reviewed in the United States on June 19, 2012
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    I have 4.5 year old boy and girl twins and and a 21mo.old son. The advice in this book is so practical and makes sense so much it worked overnight for us. It did not take 5 years or even 5 days, really in just one night I was able to transform myself into a new parent. The book actually should have been named as: how to be a new parent by friday! Although I was familiar with some of the principles in this book from Dr.Phelan's 1-2-3 Magic but I have not been very successful implementing 1-2-3 magic because I could not get over falling into trap of anger after all especially when I'm tired. Sometimes silent anger sometimes yelling and nagging. What I am most surprised about that is that I am not an aggressive person with others. I am much more in control. I have a lot of mom friends who feel like me. I guess it's because we think we are patient enough after saying something 10 times to our kids then we feel we have the right to yell to get it done. Other times we are very affectionate. But I knew that my kids (in fact all kids) deserve better parents - who have auto-control and well managing. Dr Leman calls it an authoritative parent. I also knew if I did not take care of it now I might have more serious problems when they are teens and I would not even realize it was coming.

    So a very simple idea helped me a lot to stop getting angry: Say it once. Turn your back. Walk away. Walking away to another room at that moment of disagreement with your kid really helps you stay calm. Then kids start chasing you but they do not get angry back at you because you are calm and you just let the consequences take care of it. The result is amazing. Kids respond to it very well. I am surprised how well they respond I admit. My older son likes screaming when he does not get what he wants. This morning we had an episode about what to wear. I picked maybe 5 different t-shirts and he did not want any of them but he insisted on the one that's dirty in the laundry. I could get carried away and end up forcing him to wear one of the clean ones. Instead I did not say anything, just went upstairs with a set of outfit for him. He came to upstairs with his underwear. I prepared a bowl of cereal of his favorite ones and told him that I will not be able to give it to him because he did not put his clothes on. Then I immediately left the kitchen, sort of like leaving the scene of potential power struggle and oh man it really helps staying calm. He started chasing me around the house! I seemed like paying no attention, like it's not a big deal. Then after whining for a short while he himself CHOSE to wear the clothes I brought upstairs. And that was it. Our morning has been great until I took him and his siblings to daycare. It was amazing.

    I can go on and on about other suggestions in this book but I won't. Me and my husband are well educated business owners but we were having a hard time managing our approach to our children at times. This book helped us instantly. Period. I recommend it to every parent especially if you are a busy one like me who do not have time for long phsycological behavior analysis.
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  • Iryna
    5.0 out of 5 stars Must have in the library!
    Reviewed in Canada on March 22, 2018
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    Such a great book. I highly recommend it to anyone who is planning to have kids or already has them.

    Being a parent is a full time job and we want to raise our kids the best we can and teach them the right staff. This book is broken down Into two parts: principles and all words of real life examples that it’s so easy to reference back to depending on what challenges you may be having with your kids. It’s so hard to remember everything especially in the heat of the moment, so it’s a perfect book to keep handy and use as a reference.

    Highly recommend.

    P.S. book arrived in the specified delivery period and in a good condition.
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  • Amazon Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
    Reviewed in India on September 1, 2016
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    Clear guidance to manage the strong willed child.
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  • Sylvie
    5.0 out of 5 stars Absolutely brilliant book! It has helped improve our family life ...
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 4, 2014
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    Absolutely brilliant book! It has helped improve our family life so much! I've been re-reading it and it's a great reference to go back to. If you're looking for a plan that works, don't hesitate to get this book!
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  • trapida
    5.0 out of 5 stars Sehr empfehlenswert
    Reviewed in Germany on May 10, 2009
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    Letztes Jahr las ich Dreikurs' "Kinder fordern uns heraus", ein sehr hilfreiches Buch, das in unserer Familie einiges zum Positiven gewandelt hat. Jedoch habe ich oft mit Dreikurs Konzept der "natürlichen Folgen" gehadert, denn es gibt Situationen, wo die natürliche Folge, die das Kind sein negatives Verhalten spüren lassen soll, nicht offensichtlich ist, und man sich als Eltern dann doch allzuleicht auf einen Machtkampf einlässt. Damit räumt das neues Buch von Leman auf. Er verdeutlicht sehr anschaulich, wie Kinder lernen, ihre Eltern und deren Wünsche zu respektieren, wie man Kindern klare Grenzen setzt, sie zur Kooperation bewegt und wie wichtig es ist, konsequent zu sein. Man lernt, dass man kein schlechtes Gewissen haben muss, wenn man gelegentlich drastische Konsequenzen zieht. Bei uns und einigen unserer Freunde hat Lemans Buch wirklich durchschlagenden Erfolg, der etwas provokante Titel ist durchaus ernst zu nehmen. Eltern, die sich gelegentlich bei der Kindererziehung unsicher oder überfordert fühlen, mehrmals täglich in Machtkämpfe involviert sind und sich schon immer ein "Wundermittel" gewünscht haben, damit die Kinder endlich kooperieren, kann ich dieses Buch nur wärmstens empfehlen, Sie werden überrascht sein. Übrigens sind Lemans Methoden genauso auf Kleinkinder wie auf Teenager anwendbar.
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  • Thu Nguyen
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book
    Reviewed in Canada on April 30, 2018
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    This book is full of effective simple strategies that parents could use to effectively discipline their children immediately. It’s almost like “too good to be true “, but it’s completely true in its effectiveness and straightforwardness. You will “Have A New Kid” in no time! I love this book and I strongly recommend it to parents and professionals who work with families.
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