Customer Review
- Reviewed in the United States on October 27, 2011Thank you Dr. Leman! I just can't believe how much better I feel since I found this book. I have a child who from birth has seemed to fit the definition of "high needs". My girl is 6 and was our first child. We now have a 14 month old son too. Our 6 year old is bright, funny and is considered "smart" and a wonderful student by her teachers who say she's so cooperative and well behaved at school. At times I've wondered why we can't see more of her "model behavior" at home! Thanks to Dr. Leman's book, I now know why we don't see more of the positive kid we know she can be. We just have not been putting enough of the responsibility for behavior in her court. We have for too long rescued our daughter from experiencing the consequences of her behavior. We have rules in our home that we've struggled over the years to enforce, but we've nagged, bribed, threatened and even yelled at times to shape her behavior. I now practice, B can't happen until A happens. After a few days of this strategy, I'm hearing a lot more of, "OK MOM" and seeing my child follow through with her daily routine without me having to bribe her with promises of rewards, or having to constantly remind her of what to do....We are feeling a lot less stressed. We have been applying the techniques from this book for about a week now and I do see a positive shift in my child. We have a lot of work to yet, but I have been lot more relaxed. My kid gets mad when I won't do things for her that she can do herself, but eventually, she gives up begging and does for herself. We'll see how things are in a month, but I will say that seeing results and changes in my child's behavior right away has empowered my to continue with these strategies. I can see why this book has so much positive feedback. I've read lots of parenting books in the past 6 years. I wish I had found Dr. Leman earlier.
