The Best Sex Toys for Every Body
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Sex tech has come a long way in the past 10 years—not only in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness but also technology. Gone are the days of sex toys that feel like knockoff action figures and clunky, pink, plastic rabbit vibrators—although rabbit vibes are still all the rage for some people. Today's toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and the world’s greatest sexperts. Unlike in the old days, people with vulvas are very often the ones creating sex toys for vulvas. They're often made of high-quality medical-grade silicone and feature robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors designed to help you have a good time.
Because your sexual health is so paramount, sexual self-care is just as essential as all the other forms of self-care, so don’t short-change yourself in this area. There’s never a bad time to invest in a product that will “get you there,” so to speak, and luckily we live in an era when there are so many types of devices from which to choose. These are the best sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal wand massagers, and accessories, all of which we’ve personally tested. There’s something here for everyone, every gender, every sexuality, and every body. The language on these products isn’t always gender-inclusive, but we approached testing with a gender-inclusive mindset, testing these with different genitals, bodies, and partners. Whether you’re looking for your first vibrator or your 101st, this is the list for you.
Be sure to check out our other bedroom-related guides, including the Best Vibrators, Best Clitoral Suction Toys, Best Lubes, Best Sex Machines, Best Mattresses, and Best Sound Machines.
Updated September 2024: We've added the Magic Wand Micro, Dame Fin, Le Wand Deux, and Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set.
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Which Toys Are for My Body?
The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive and inaccurate, and it contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s unhelpful, and I have a lot of feelings about it. We opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V.
The vulva is the exterior part of the vagina. It includes the labia majora, labia minora, the urethra, and the clitoris. As the center of the erogenous nerves of the vulva, it’s often been said that the clitoris has roughly 8,000 nerve endings, but because the external part of the clitoris is literally just the tip of the iceberg in regards to its size, new research puts that number between 9,852 to 11,086 never endings, depending on the person. The internal structures of the clitoris extend down to either side of the vagina, which is where you’ll find the G-spot—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
The phallus is what’s commonly referred to as the shaft of the penis, and it includes a couple of erogenous zones. The glans is the top of the phallus, usually referred to as the “head,” and the frenulum is a thin strip of connective tissue on the underside of the glans that can be particularly sensitive to targeted stimulation. Last but not least, the anus is, well … it's the butthole. The rectum is the interior portion that attaches to the anus. Both of these areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimulation.
For people born with phalluses, there’s an additional erogenous zone here: the prostate or P-spot. This is a walnut-sized gland that lives between the internal structures of the penis and the rectum, and it can be reached by toys that curve toward the front of your body. But even those without a prostate can thoroughly enjoy anal sex, anal vibrators, or anal play of any kind, so don’t limit your sexual pleasure possibilities just because you don’t have a P-spot.