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Danielle Bayard Jackson joins us to discuss how being a high-achieving woman impacts our platonic relationships and the art and science of conflict versus connection. Danielle has dedicated the last six years of her career to studying the latest research about the science of these kinds of platonic female relationships. There’s a massive blurring of lines between colleagues, friends from work, and friends outside of work; especially for high-achieving women who spend most of their time at work and therefore, naturally meet most of their friends in the workplace. So much of your identity rests in achievements and while that is praised by many people, often it’s detrimental to friendships. Many of you don’t know who you are outside of your professional goals and achievements and it’s imperative to figure out what more you have to offer in order to build meaningful friendships. We’re chatting about: ✔️ Having Different Friends for Different Purposes ✔️ Making a Change to Your Friendships and Where Conflict Fits in ✔️ How to Handle Healthy Conflict and Stay Connected in Friendship https://lnkd.in/edWCupyb #mindsetinbusiness #bossproject #businesspodcast #womeninbusiness #womenbusinessowners #friendship

I read this article this morning by my colleague, David J. Singer (he/him), and I am so grateful to have this article on belonging to share with others. I love that the focus of this article makes pronouns and smaller details of the language we use with others more relatable and easy to understand. The focus should be on how we impact others and how we make them feel included -- like they truly belong. I place a high value on working at a company that supports this environment to ensure we create a safe space for others where they can belong. #RiskStrategies #DEI https://lnkd.in/gdZyxuFf

Do you sometimes question someone's intentions? Or, are you someone who always looks to see what you can get out of a situation? Check out my article on having people around you with pure intentions... https://ed.gr/eewr2 #pureintentions #intentions

Do you sometimes question someone's intentions? Or, are you someone who always looks to see what you can get out of a situation? Check out my article on having people around you with pure intentions... https://ed.gr/eewr2 #pureintentions #intentions

🌟 SPOTLIGHT: Meet Fran Fomai! 🌟 We're thrilled to shine a light on Fran, an exceptional Author, Speaker, and Business Owner! Fran's insight, authenticity, and ability to empower others are truly inspiring. Her book is a must-read – grab your copy today and be inspired by Fran's wisdom! Grateful to #NetworkHERWay for introducing us!! #EmpoweredWomen #Networking #Inspiration"

𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚? What do you tell yourself about who and what you are? If you’re not sure, no worries. Here’s an easy way to figure it out. The next time you try to take action to achieve something you desire and your inner critic voice tells you “STOP! You can’t do that!”, listen closely. It’s telling you “I’m not …. [fill in the blank]” 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘦? For many women legal and other high-achieving professionals, it’s often unkind and disempowering. In a recent session with a woman lawyer, she mentioned that her colleagues all rated her much higher in her 360 reviews than she had rated herself in her self-evaluation. It bothered her to realize that she had such a low self-image. The message she told herself was that she was a women whose contributions did not have great value. That was the identity she believed was hers to assume – despite her colleagues’ rave reviews as proof it wasn’t true. If you want to break the cycle of assuming an identity that is disempowering: ✅ Pause and listen to that critical inner voice message whenever you notice you're holding yourself back from taking action to achieve what you want. ✅ Exercise your power to say no and choose a new empowering message. ✅ Repeat as needed. While this takes getting used to (like all change does), the first step to making a change is awareness. ➡️Share below: What does your inner critic voice say to you? Will you choose to create a new habit of telling yourself empowering truths instead so that you can step into the identity you want? #hsp #energyhealing #womeninlaw

How to Find a Good Woman: Insights from with Andrew Tate👩❤️👨 In my conversation with Andrew Tate, we explore the qualities that define a "good woman" and how to recognize one in today’s world. It’s not just about beauty or status—finding a good woman is about identifying someone who values emotional intelligence, personal growth, and respect. A woman who supports your vision, challenges you in positive ways, and shares your values is key to building a strong, fulfilling relationship. Are you ready to find someone who aligns with your goals and values? Let’s discuss the qualities that truly matter when it comes to building a lasting partnership. #RelationshipAdvice #GoodWoman #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #HealthyRelationships #SadiaPsychology #AndrewTate #DatingAdvice #SelfWorth #RespectInRelationships

This article by The Washington Post explores the concept of "hermeneutic labor," a term coined by philosophy professor @Ellie Anderson to describe the mental work women often do in interpreting the emotions and motives of their male partners. Anderson argues that women are often forced to decipher opaque cues from their partners and navigate difficult conversations, leading to emotional labor that is often unrecognized and unrewarded. This dynamic can have negative effects on women in heterosexual relationships, as their efforts to maintain the relationship are sometimes met with disbelief or accusations of overreacting. The article also delves into the societal norms and upbringing that contribute to men's emotional disconnection and explores strategies for improving communication in relationships. Read more via the link below: https://lnkd.in/d-C4GWAs

Navigating the Tightrope: Embracing Your Role as the "Other Woman"🤔💔 Discover the complexities of being the "other woman" in a relationship and the importance of embracing your choices without shame. This thought-provoking video dives deep into self-reflection and empowerment. Dive in and own your narrative. #EmbraceYourChoices #RelationshipComplexities #SelfReflection #Empowerment #OwningYourNarrative #NoShame #EmbraceYourself #OwnYourChoices #SelfEmpowerment #NavigatingRelationships

I have managed to upset two different men in my life recently by mentioning a simple fact. One of them... well, I was not surprised he was triggered. But the other one was unexpected. He is an ally, a feminist, and a truly supportive human being. So, what had I said? I just mentioned, as part of a bigger conversation, that most of the organisational structures we live with were built by white men. Both of them responded, with some vehemence, something like: ‘Why did you need to say that? It’s unnecessary.’ I was not able to question the first one as to why it triggered him so much because he walked off in a huff. But I did try to get to the bottom of what was going on for the second one, and a spirited conversation ensued. Basically it was something to do with carrying the burden of the white men that had come before him - which is, of course, a legitimate response. His feelings are real and valid, and should not be discounted. At one point in the conversation though - when we were discussing how women have been silenced, both throughout history and often still today -  I found MYSELF triggered and overcome with an emotion I didn’t understand. It took me two days to figure out why it had hit me so hard. It was because when someone says, ‘Why did you need to say that? It’s unnecessary.’ they are trying to silence you. You have said something they don’t want to hear, and so therefore you should not say it. It doesn’t matter that it's true. Obviously it felt necessary for me to say it, that’s why I said it. But by telling me it’s unnecessary, you are telling me my views/needs/feelings are not valid. I should just shut up about it. It was fascinating to me that I couldn’t recognise in the moment that it was this that was upsetting me. It's not a nice feeling, being shut down. But now I’m aware - and will be on the look out for when it happens again. And perhaps then I can halt the conversation and say ‘Did you see what just happened there?’ My other learning was to really ensure I don’t silence other people by doing the same thing. I hope that my response in such a situation would be: ‘You know when you say that, it makes me feel X, Y and Z’ - but not tell them they shouldn’t have said it. I don't want anyone else to feel shut down by me. Anyone else recognise that this has happened to them? How often are we being silenced and not even realising that’s what it is?