Are you being kind? Or are you actually fostering a workplace culture that makes it difficult to have honest conversations? It’s no secret that women executives are in a complicated position when it comes to delivering feedback. Morgana Rae, CEO of Charmed Life Coaching, reminds us that “Women learn at a young age that displeasing can be dangerous, so we become people pleasers at an early age.” So, how can executive women overcome this learned impulse to people please? In moments of conflict, lean into tough conversations. If executives’ priority is to maintain a certain perception, their feedback can come out as unclear or, worse, never be given at all. Engaging in direct feedback and handling disagreements openly is key to developing transparent, trusting cultures. The difference between a good leader and a great leader often comes down to their ability to choose bravery over fear in the toughest moments. Read Rae’s complete recommendations on embracing conflict at the link in our comments.
Avoiding conflict almost always enables problems to fester and grow. Like most situations that we avoid out of fear, by taking the time to prepare for the conversation, you can eliminate some of the anxiety. Remember to contemplate your own role in the situation and your biases, and go into the conversation with the intention to listen. Some of the best results come out of conflict.
"Leaders should choose bravery over fear". SAY IT LOUDER! We waste time trying to be less afraid instead of bringing and building our bravery to meet the challenge. Fear of confrontation is so pervasive we avoid it altogether. What would be the brave thing to do in the face of that fear? If you can name it, then it becomes easier to get after doing it.
Choosing to have the difficult conversations and doing it in a way that promotes a dialogue is important. Actively listening, being open to perspectives, and empathy also often lead to conflict resolution.
I try to live my life every day by being brave—in my role at PwC and as a mother, mentor and snowboard enthusiast. It can be scary to have the bravery to lean into tough conversations, but being authentic and speaking up in these moments is so important.
I agree!
It's either people pleasers or the absolute (unspeakable) opposite I'd say... can't win 🤣