This week we have something cool to focus on. It is how to develop or further perfect the ability to be happy in life. Our guide is the book The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. I like the full title of the book, as it’s descriptive of what is to come. It is The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent A Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun. This work is a memoir of Rubin’s yearlong experiment to try to maximize happiness (I might call it contentment).
She was not coming from misery as a catalyst. She was happily married and loved being a mother of two. She had been successful in law and had already transitioned to a successful writing career. On the surface she already was happy. But one day she had a strong awareness of how life so quickly passes by, and she developed a fear she would wake up one day and feel her life had been wasted. She also knew she did not want to do anything drastic. Her conclusion was to spend a year with happiness objectives. One big objective was to read and absorb from philosophers, novelists, positive psychologists, thought leaders and scientists. Her expectation was not to add anything new to the field. Rather, it was through her time and focus on the area it would help her appreciate her life better and icing on the cake would be if it would inspire others as well.
She liked Benjamin Franklin’s writing of his “thirteen virtues” which Franklin tried to live by. Rubin created her own “Resolutions Chart” with a focus on attitude, work, and play, that she felt would be key to help increase happiness. This was complemented with what she called “the Twelve Commandments” that were ground rules to abide by. One, as an example, was “Be Gretchen,” meaning she would not try to adopt or be swayed by others’ ideas of happiness or fun. Another example is “Act the way I want to feel,” meaning she tried to project an attitude of gratitude and wellness even when she was not feeling it. From here she layered in what she called her “Secrets of Adulthood.” This included the maxim that, “People do not notice your mistakes as much as you think.” Combining all of this, she commenced her yearlong project.