Iris Culp, M.Ed. ☑

Approach the conversation with your observations. Specifically I've done this by stating, "I know that you are ________ (insert person's stunning strength) and I've noticed something that is hindering your relationship within the team. Would you like me to share that with you?" I've never had anyone turn that offer down, though some have expressed trepidation. Managers I've coached to do this also report positive impact. When one approaches it directly, and obtains not only permission, but an invitation for feedback, your perspective has a chance to be heard and affect change. I'm interested in other people's thought on this approach. Please chime in !

I have a system that prevents the erosion of trust at its core. For example, if I'm coaching an executive 1 on 1, at each session, I have a 2-4 min debrief/ feedback moment. In that, I ask the client to identify the most impactful outcome from the work. This reinforces to them the change/solution at hand, while simultaneously advising me what matters to that person most. The constant feedback loop is critical to ongoing success, authenticity & trust. There are several expectations set forth at the beginning as well that create an expectation for feedback from them to me and from me to them. It's creates a virtuous cycle and builds momentum. Feedback is a gift -- seek it out consistently is my viewpoint. Be strategic in the client experience

Professional life has changed. Get real. When you are on this platform, there are serendipitous moments to grab on to. When that presents itself, connect for virtual coffee; follow your instincts. I've had these online connections turn into decades-long friendships. Currently, I have four individuals whom I met initially via social media (LI, to be precise) who have become either clients, business besties, or both. Don't underestimate the impact of virtual reach. 2020 upended expectations. Embrace it. I have. It's a powerful In sum: "Toto, we're not in Kansas anymore." I'm glad. How about you? What has changed for you that you're embracing?

Remember my business bestie saying, "I was thinking about how to provide value.... and I just decided to freely share my thoughts." Yes. It's simple. Instead of thinking about how you want to provide value, JUST DO IT! Whether it's in a 1 to 1 follow up after a networking meeting or a catch-up session, don't hold back. I grew up on a farm -- you plant before you harvest. Just accept that fact. Results arrive from spaces you did not anticipate. Embrace the opportunity to be authentic. Make your corner of the world better by providing value instead of talking about it. Demonstrate it. Be: - Bold - Genuine - Demonstrate expertise No regrets there! LMK how it goes.

Think back to a time when someone was 100% focused on LISTENING to you...... It's a powerful experience. When you actively engage with a colleague's thoughtful post -- doing that is similar to actively listening. Who doesn't love being heard when they are bold enough to speak out? That is the equivalent of engaging, commenting or listening to someone else in a topic on social media (of course, my favorite platform is LI:)! So, if your time is limited, spend more time on commenting and engaging that posting and speaking about what matters to you. Everyone loves someone who listens and understands. Be THAT person to provide value. It's not hard -- simply requires focus on others. Do it today. Results will surprise you I bet. DM me ..

It's annoying as hell to get a "canned" message or connection request on LinkedIn. If you're going to reach out, take the extra few moments & notice something about the individual and personalize. Each human has value. Demonstrate that you know this, by individualizing your connection request. Maybe 10 extra seconds to notice that you've visited their city once a decade ago and what you were surprised about that city upon arrival. It's not hard, it just requires focus and choice. If your ideal client is on LinkedIn, then invest a bit of time to personalize a connection request. Otherwise -- spend your time on another platform.