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"I don’t think waking up in the middle of the night to work is good for you,” my wife said. A few months before that, I had quit my postdoc and thrown myself into medical writing, working absurd hours. I was gripped by anxiety that would strike in the middle of the night. Unable to sleep, I would get up and work. After my wife had endured a week of waking up to a ragged and grumpy husband, she shared the above thought with me. “I think you’re working too much,” she continued She was right. As a researcher, I’d been a #workaholic, driven by a need to prove myself. I craved external validation. Early in my career, I had enjoyed research, but it eventually consumed me, leading me to neglect other areas of my life. In academia, workaholism is often rewarded. Which drove me to work more. When I finally burned out as a #postdoc, after 10 years in research, I told myself I was done with the need to work endlessly to regulate my emotions. But a few months into my new #scicomm career, I realized: “No matter where I go, there I am.” For me, workaholism stemmed from a fear of failure. I worked incessantly to avoid it — whether it was a failed experiment or client dissatisfaction with my writing. It’s a tough way to live, and over the years, I’ve found a bit more work-everything else balance. Here’s how: 🔍 Reexamining my views on failure: I took my work so personally that we were one and the same. Only recently have I been able to separate the two. My great fear about delivering writing that a client isn’t happy with is okay, but it doesn’t have to be about me. Rather, I can frame it as being about the content. “This missed the mark, Elie,” a client might say. Workaholic Elie might turn inward and think, “Arghh, what did I do wrong?!?” More Balanced Elie tries to think, “Hmm, I wonder what happened with this piece?” And ask questions to try to correct it. 🏄♂️ Enriching other meaningful areas: At the height of my workaholism, I convinced myself I didn’t need anything outside of work. Research was my life. But over time, I made room for family, surfing, friends, rest, boxing, and reading. These activities recharged me, both mentally and physically, providing a balance that work alone couldn’t offer. ✋ Setting and keeping boundaries: I fiercely protect personal time—whether it’s for family, socializing, or exercise. If work threatens to encroach, I adjust deadlines or reprioritize tasks. And when anxiety strikes at night, instead of working, I write down what’s on my mind, read something I enjoy, and, eventually, get back to sleep. I don’t think I’ll ever not be a workaholic, but putting some strategies in place to keep it in check keeps me from burning out and gives me the tools to actually be more efficient, strategic, and motivated in my work. If you’re a workaholic, too, tell me how you avoid burnout below 👇 👇 👇