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How to stop making assumptions at work? Today, Fabrice asks: — "I often catch myself assuming what others think about me. How can I change that? — Welcome to Episode 207 of AskMatty! Here’s my answer, Fabrice: — Let’s try this practical tool: →    The THINK Method It’s often used in therapy to reduce conflict. But we can also use it when we catch ourselves making assumptions. Let’s see how to use it. 1.    First, take a moment to breathe and notice your thoughts. For example, you might think: →    “I feel like my boss thinks I’m not doing a good job” Now, let’s dive into the THINK method. We’ll reflect on 5 questions — one for each letter of THINK. 1.    T — Think Ask yourself: →    Is this assumption true? →    What facts do I have to support it? For example, you might say: "Last week, my boss didn’t give me positive feedback on my project. But I also remember she said she appreciated my effort on the last one." 2.    H — Have Empathy Ask yourself: →    How might the other person be feeling? →    What could they be going through? Sometimes, we just need to put ourselves in others’ shoes. Maybe your boss is under a lot of stress with deadlines. Maybe she didn’t have time to give everyone feedback. 3.    I — Interpretations Ask yourself: →    Am I considering other possible interpretations of their behavior or words? Maybe your boss isn’t upset with your work. Maybe she’s just busy and hasn’t had a chance to acknowledge it yet. You know what I mean? 4.    N — Notice Ask yourself: →    What do I notice about my feelings right now? →    Am I feeling anxious, insecure, or something else? You might feel anxious about your boss being unhappy with you. But it’s not always about you, right? :) 5.    K — Kindness Ask yourself: →    How can I respond kindly to myself and the other person? For example, you might remind yourself that everyone has off days. You could also check in with your boss about your progress. And maybe ask for feedback. Got it? That’s it. Try this exercise whenever you notice yourself making assumptions. As we know, the more we practice, the easier it gets :) — Alright! Thanks for your question, Fabrice. Question of the day: →    Do you ever catch yourself making assumptions? Let me know in the comments :) “Let’s build a world where everyone belongs through the power of wellbeing!” – Matty