What are the most effective ways to identify your personal values?

Reflect on your life experiences, not only your professional life. I would go as far back as primary school. You will be surprised how many people I have coached remembered something they did when they were young that excites them now. Selling sweets at school or singing in a band or helping younger kids. What was important to you through out your life. Have you moved countries and why? Are you passionate about a specific community issue? Do you enjoy serving, building, selling, persuading, caring, leading... I believe we were born with some if not all these values.

I fully agree with @Michelle Mancini. Start by analyzing your personal life experiences - this is the basis you can reflect on. I want to share you with my experience of identifying my personal values - when I was a teenager, I've got a huge experience of being a good, reliable, and responsible friend, while my friends were not. I suffered much from it, but then realized what my strengths were in comparison to others. In some time it shaped a good understanding of myself. I want to also highlight - compare everything you do to the deeds of others. That's how you know for sure.

When reflecting, one way to dig deeper into my values is to keep asking myself why. - why did I react that way? - why do I feel happy hanging out with that person - why do I enjoy doing certain work or certain activities

The things that we find ourselves naturally most passionate and even curious about give insight to what our personal values are. They are where we spend the currency of our attention. They are activities/pursuits that seem effortful to others but feel effortless to you. Earlier in my career I struggled with being a “Jack of many trades.” I was accused of being unfocused. What I eventually realized is I value learning. Once I was able to identify this I was better equipped to apply this value to my life and career. Identifying these values requires you to be a study of yourself. Take the time to think and journal about what matters to you then ask others where they see you thriving and most happy/engaged. Their answers may surprise you!

The ‘Five People Test’: ask your five closest friends to describe you. What would they say? They will likely express a version of you different from what you think. According to Neil Pasricha, this test can help you to find your authentic self. Could you stand in front of the mirror? Fully embrace what you see. Scan your forehead, nose, eyes, mouth, and chin. What do you notice? How would you describe what you see? Take a Sabotage assessment test. What are some of your positive coping skills? What negative coping skills and self-beliefs might be holding you back? What does the test say about you? What surprises you about it?

One of my favourite assessment tools is the values card sort - where an individual sorts a series of cards under three headings: Very important Somewhat important Not important Then, we can draw on the lived experiences to talk through their choices and the stories behind them.

I’ve found that taking a Values Assessment is a great starting point. From there you can see what rings true and compare that to how you’re actually devoting your time. Sometimes we say we value something but we aren’t giving that thing the time and energy it deserves which is a wake up call for a reset.

Según mi experiencia, una buena manera de identificar nuestros valores, es buscar una lista de valores, sobre 100 idealmente. Identificar 15, luego, de los 15 elegidos, escoger 10 y finalmente, escoger 5. Es una muy buena forma de llegar a los valores que nos mueven. Es importante para identificar las empresas en las que comparta los valores personales. No es recomendable trabajar en compañías en donde los valores no se ajusten a los nuestros. Genera frustración, falta de motivación. Por ejemplo, no respetar a los empleados. No es fácil trabajar en empresas en las que los valores de la organización están reñidos con los valores per

A utilização de ferramentas de avaliação de valores pode ser uma abordagem prática e estruturada para identificar e clarificar seus valores pessoais. Essas ferramentas fornecem uma base tangível para a reflexão, permitindo uma análise mais detalhada e facilitando a comparação com outros valores. No entanto, é crucial combinar essa abordagem com introspecção profunda para uma compreensão holística.

When figuring out my own values, lists were the most helpful tool for me. It felt too broad and overwhelming to start by evaluating my personality or thinking back on various life experiences — and I'd often lose track of the exercise, jumping from memory to memory instead. As someone who connects with words, seeing a huge list of values — I'm talking dozens and dozens of words — was actually the faster way to go. That won't be true for everyone, but it was for me! I started by picking out around 10-15 words from the list that stood out to me most and fit best. Then I spent time with each word, exploring them in more detail to learn which ones were the most accurate and aligned. So don't force 1 approach. Go with what works best for you!

When seeking feedback be sure you talk to a reliable person, who can give you an objective point of view. I personally can rely only on my mother's words, because I know she tells me the truth, even if it's not what I want to hear.

In my experience, seeking feedback is one of the most effective ways to identify your values. Very often, the things that you have been taking for granted, show up as your prime values. While seeking feedback, it's important to note that the person giving feedback knows you well and is objective. Giving them why you are seeking feedback would help them stay objective.

I believe that feedback comes naturally when you do something unique that sets you apart from others. I completed a course in College on how to control the spread of mosquitoes. This learning has had a significant impact on me, and I now follow all hygiene practices to stay healthy and happy. My mother praises me for my efforts, and that motivates me to continue doing what I am doing.

My values have definitely evolved and changed as I grew older with more experience. They were much more rigid when I was younger. I was less forgiving of myself and of others who didn't abide by the narrow path that I saw as the right way to traverse life. As I get older and have more experiences myself good and bad, and know others who have gone through their own joys and trials, I realize that right and wrong are not always clear-cut. Making the right choice that aligns you with your heart, is a moving target. What maybe be the right decision now for me, might not be the right thing for me 10 years from now. So, I think we must all approach our own values with a spirit of flexibility and self-knowledge.

I hate changes, but sometimes they are very helpful. Trying something new brings you new experiences. I personally was afraid to change my workplace but after a training period I understood that I can work in a completely different environment which appeared to be my strong personal value, namely my flexibility.

Self-discovery unfolds through diverse experiments, strengthening personal values. Life's quest involves continuous exploration, pursuing passions, and embracing the seemingly impossible. Building values is challenging, requiring engagement with experiences that shape our understanding of what matters. Experimentation inspires embedding values into daily life—trying hobbies, volunteering, taking courses, or joining clubs refines our values. Crafting our path is a challenging choice. The journey weaves joy and challenge, contributing to a rich tapestry of experiences. Embracing encounters allows us to authentically follow our values until the journey's end.

Have you ever felt so passionate (or upset) by something that you struggled to convey your thoughts in a way people might hear? As a white (Mexican American) man, I know I can say more, or risk more, without being dismissed as simply "angry." At the same time, in my passion, I've gone on expressive rants that sounded created distance between me and my audience—a shame because, in these moment, I deeply want to honor and respect something, someone or some group (expressive of my values). Experiment: Next time you feel your passion and are afraid of how it may come out, remember a story or experience that backs it up. Tell it, take time to breath, and ask what folks think or feel. Practice the courage to be vulnerable and in your heart.

My personal list of values includes: Health Autonomy Family Friends Truth Responsibility Courage Growth Respect Kindness Compassion Fairness Gentleness Peace Unity Simplicity Patience Humility I am a work in progress, and my ability to live my values is tested daily... * In times of temptation, trouble, or stress * When I am hungry, tired, or annoyed * When making the right choice will involve a loss for me * When I have a convenient excuse * When I am "one against many" * When speaking to power * When fear overwhelms * When there's a bet involved * When someone breaks or damages a prize possession * When I don't get my way * When someone insults me * When my vanity or ego gets the better of me Minoo 2.0 is the goal.

What's your "pretend" value? One way I look at it is that your pretend value is the one that short circuits your mostly deeply held value (or purpose). For me, my pretend value is harmony. Why? Because my core value in community. Seeking harmony can get in the way of healthy conflict and engaging with differences—circumstances that can be uncomfortable but are necessary for building healthy, resilient communities and workplaces that value everyone. What's your #1 value and how do your actions, fears or insecurities get in the way of you enacting it?

Review your mission. Plant your flag. What would you go running in the streets naked to have people hear? I bet if your kid needed something and this was the only way to get attention to help them, he would run naked. I bet if you had a cure for cancer you were naked. Naked is metaphorical or not, you get to choose 🤪

If you asked me my values when I was in my teens and early 20s, they would be different from what they are now in my 50s. Re-evaluate your list regularly to make sure that your actions and behavior continue to align with those values. And remember - you cannot project your values onto others. Making sure you know yours, have clarity around why those are so important to you, and owning them entirely as your own can help reduce the potential to project them onto others.

Personal values are our moral compass. Value statements are non negotiable aspects of behaviour. Any challenge or violation of values may create cognitive dissonance. In professional space, understanding own and team members' values is critical for synergy and harmonious working. The collective value system shall be aligned with organizational values. Value conflicts at workplace are increasingly becoming common. These conflicts are amplified due to increasing diversity at work place. Value conflicts are most common problem in cross cultural communication. It is imperative that organizational code of conduct shall be aligned with values of people who are working there. It will lead to better job satisfaction and performance.

A melhor forma de identificar valores pessoais é através de suas histórias. Quando a pessoa conta uma história significativa em sua vida, ela vem acompanhada daquilo que a move, que é importante - seus valores!!

Values are essentially beliefs that control our behaviour/response. What is most important for me in my life? What do I consider right and what do I consider wrong? These are very open ended questions and answers can be so varied from one individual to another. It is very important that you are clear on what is negotiable and what is non-negotiable for you. Not clearly knowing your values can lead to a decision you might repent all your life. Don't make a huge list and confuse yourself. Just have couple of them which are completely non-negotiable for you. Use them as guiding star in all your decisions / negotiations. Remember, having too many values can make you too rigid, while having no values can make you someone without a character.

If it is difficult to assess and identify your own values use this trick. See yourself as a third person. What advice would you give this person. What do they do well, what do they like doing and what are they good at. What makes them happy and what would you wish for this person.