We’ve all been there — fantasizing about someone with the perfect face, personality, and job. But sometimes, once you start dating that person, you quickly realize their job is not so hot... at ALL. So, before you swipe right on that pilot or lawyer — or find yourself falling for your very own Carmy from The Bear — let’s get real about what dating them is reaallly like.
Recently, redditor scary_drawing8175 asked the r/askreddit community: "Which is that one profession you’ll never date?" Here are the 18 occupations they are begging you not to pine after:
1. "Pilots. I dated a pilot once, and they are like a big group of adult frat boys. They ALL cheated with hostesses. They were all self-inflated. But how would you know if someone's a pilot, you might ask? Don't worry. They'll tell you. It will be the FIRST thing they tell you."
2. "I would avoid people who work at bars and nightclubs. Just because their working hours would make it very difficult for me."
3. "I am a cop; I married a cop. And, I still tell people not to date cops."
4. "Firefighters/EMTs. I’ve seen too many of my friends get cheated on because they can’t stay loyal while sitting at a firehouse overnight."
5. "If you are not in the film industry, DO NOT date someone who works in the industry."
6. "Someone calling themselves a CEO and Founder on LinkedIn. Exhausting."
7. "Politicians — too much drama and not enough honesty!"
"I've been there. It sucked, a lot of nice words and promises. But nothing ever came of it."
8. "Bartender… too many alcoholics enabling themselves. I learned that the hard way and currently have a friend dealing with the same thing."
9. "MUSICIANS. They have irregular hours and are always gone on tours. When dating them you deal with constant possible infidelity and inconsistent pay, so they're unable to contribute financially a lot of the time... it's torturous."
10. "Chefs. They deal with high stress and have a rough schedule, too."
11. "Psychiatrist — trust me. The manipulation is on another level. That’s all I’ll say."
12. "Theater people. Admittedly, part of it is because my ex is one, so they're tainted for me. More of a hobby than a profession in her case, but oh well."
"In my experience, it seems like they all just hook up with each other."
13. "Lawyers. They work ridiculously long hours, and their work is very adversarial, and that often carries over into their personal relationships."
14. "Military. (I’m in the military.)"
15. "Car salesman. Each and every one that I have ever met was a professional liar. My ex was a mechanic at a dealership, and he would tell me some crap about those salesmen."
16. "I'm a nurse and I would never, ever date a doctor."
17. "Professors. The ego is unreal."
18. "Anyone who works in HR."
"Why would you want that type of job? You just know they were unliked in school."
Are there any jobs you believe are complete nonstarters for a romantic relationship? Tell us in the comments or anonymously with this form!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
