The science behind romantic love and attraction
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The science behind romantic love and attraction
Examining the roles of various hormones as a person experiences love.
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WOMAN: [SINGING] Let me call you sweetheart.
I'm in love--
ABIGAIL MARSH: I'm Abbie Marsh. I'm a professor of psychology at Georgetown University.
Oh, I describe it as an emotion that is a particular response to one person. You love being around that person. You take a lot of pleasure from being in their company, and you're very distressed when you are separated from them.
Some of the reasons that love feels good is because of a lot of feel-good hormones that are involved. Dopamine is this sort of reward-seeking, this energized, excited, neurotransmitter in the striatum that is definitely involved in feeling "in love." The hormone that is most specific to feeling "in love," that is most specific to the social response, is oxytocin, and then a closely related neuropeptide called vasopressin.
Nature really wants love feel good, right? Nature's imperative is that we reproduce. And love is one of the mechanisms nature has put in place to make sure that we do that. The species that tend to pair-bond are the ones whose babies require a lot of work. We know that offspring who have two parents who were taking care of them tend to do better, on average, than offspring who don't. And that's, again, because they are so much work, especially if there's more than one of them. And so we think that nature set us up to form long-term pair bonds to ensure that our offspring would have the best chance of survival in the long term.
Prairie voles are really unique, in that when a male and female prairie vole mate, it seems to sort of solidify this very long-term bond between them. And as compared to a lot of other mammals, the male doesn't just disappear after they mate. He sticks around, he helps raise the babies, and he'll stay with the mom, usually, for the rest of their lives.
There's this very closely-related cousin called the montane vole that looks more or less like a prairie vole, and it's similar in a lot of ways. But it forms no pair bonds. They're what's called promiscuous. As soon as they mate, that's peace out, and that's the last Mom will probably see of him.
What seems to be the case is that in prairie voles, they have really dense oxytocin receptors in regions like the nucleus accumbens. When they mate, trigger the flood of oxytocin to be released, that triggers a flood of dopamine to be released in the nucleus accumbens, which causes, for example, the female to find that particular male really rewarding to be around. She's like, I like that dude, and I would like to stick with him. And they do.
And you can actually mimic this response really well if you inject oxytocin into a female prairie vole. She'll just, like, seek to form a pair bond with any other male prairie vole in the vicinity. And then if you block oxytocin receptors, you can totally cut off that pair-bonding response. And you'll basically turn prairie voles into montane voles. They'll be uninterested in forming pair bonds if you just block the oxytocin receptors.
I think our best guess is that humans are probably built similarly, that people who excite romantic feelings in us probably also trigger increases in oxytocin, which results in this increase in dopamine when we find that person, someone we want to stick with.
There's absolutely a lot of research comparing romantic love to addiction. And the way that people can be addicted to a specific drug, romantic love is almost like being addicted to a specific person. And there are lots of similar neurotransmitters involved-- dopamine and opioids being the most prominent, but there are other ones, as well.
And there are things about being in love that are actually sort of like being addicted to something, right? You are sort of obsessed with thinking about that thing all the time. When you're away from it, you want more. Your capacity for risk-taking to get that thing that you crave so much is increased.
And the main hormone that comes into play is something called corticotropin-releasing factor, or CRF. And this is a compound that seems to spike in the brain, either when you're separated from the object of your love or if you're separated again from your drug of choice. And this is a hormone that definitely regulates the stress system, and it seems to be involved in the feelings of acute stress that you feel right after separation from a loved one, and then the depression that seems to sink in long-term.
We're nowhere near knowing enough about love to take the mystery out of it. I think that if really what people are worried about is that knowing about neurotransmitters like oxytocin is going to take the mystery out of love, that day is a long, long way in the future. I don't think they have anything to worry about.
I'm in love--
ABIGAIL MARSH: I'm Abbie Marsh. I'm a professor of psychology at Georgetown University.
Oh, I describe it as an emotion that is a particular response to one person. You love being around that person. You take a lot of pleasure from being in their company, and you're very distressed when you are separated from them.
Some of the reasons that love feels good is because of a lot of feel-good hormones that are involved. Dopamine is this sort of reward-seeking, this energized, excited, neurotransmitter in the striatum that is definitely involved in feeling "in love." The hormone that is most specific to feeling "in love," that is most specific to the social response, is oxytocin, and then a closely related neuropeptide called vasopressin.
Nature really wants love feel good, right? Nature's imperative is that we reproduce. And love is one of the mechanisms nature has put in place to make sure that we do that. The species that tend to pair-bond are the ones whose babies require a lot of work. We know that offspring who have two parents who were taking care of them tend to do better, on average, than offspring who don't. And that's, again, because they are so much work, especially if there's more than one of them. And so we think that nature set us up to form long-term pair bonds to ensure that our offspring would have the best chance of survival in the long term.
Prairie voles are really unique, in that when a male and female prairie vole mate, it seems to sort of solidify this very long-term bond between them. And as compared to a lot of other mammals, the male doesn't just disappear after they mate. He sticks around, he helps raise the babies, and he'll stay with the mom, usually, for the rest of their lives.
There's this very closely-related cousin called the montane vole that looks more or less like a prairie vole, and it's similar in a lot of ways. But it forms no pair bonds. They're what's called promiscuous. As soon as they mate, that's peace out, and that's the last Mom will probably see of him.
What seems to be the case is that in prairie voles, they have really dense oxytocin receptors in regions like the nucleus accumbens. When they mate, trigger the flood of oxytocin to be released, that triggers a flood of dopamine to be released in the nucleus accumbens, which causes, for example, the female to find that particular male really rewarding to be around. She's like, I like that dude, and I would like to stick with him. And they do.
And you can actually mimic this response really well if you inject oxytocin into a female prairie vole. She'll just, like, seek to form a pair bond with any other male prairie vole in the vicinity. And then if you block oxytocin receptors, you can totally cut off that pair-bonding response. And you'll basically turn prairie voles into montane voles. They'll be uninterested in forming pair bonds if you just block the oxytocin receptors.
I think our best guess is that humans are probably built similarly, that people who excite romantic feelings in us probably also trigger increases in oxytocin, which results in this increase in dopamine when we find that person, someone we want to stick with.
There's absolutely a lot of research comparing romantic love to addiction. And the way that people can be addicted to a specific drug, romantic love is almost like being addicted to a specific person. And there are lots of similar neurotransmitters involved-- dopamine and opioids being the most prominent, but there are other ones, as well.
And there are things about being in love that are actually sort of like being addicted to something, right? You are sort of obsessed with thinking about that thing all the time. When you're away from it, you want more. Your capacity for risk-taking to get that thing that you crave so much is increased.
And the main hormone that comes into play is something called corticotropin-releasing factor, or CRF. And this is a compound that seems to spike in the brain, either when you're separated from the object of your love or if you're separated again from your drug of choice. And this is a hormone that definitely regulates the stress system, and it seems to be involved in the feelings of acute stress that you feel right after separation from a loved one, and then the depression that seems to sink in long-term.
We're nowhere near knowing enough about love to take the mystery out of it. I think that if really what people are worried about is that knowing about neurotransmitters like oxytocin is going to take the mystery out of love, that day is a long, long way in the future. I don't think they have anything to worry about.