How do I stop overthinking?
Today, Zahara asks:
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“Why can’t I just stop overthinking and enjoy the moment?”
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Welcome to Episode 145 of AskMatty!
Here’s my answer, Zahara:
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I wanna share a tool that changed my life — really!
It’s called “Radical Acceptance”.
Which means:
1. You accept the current situation
2. You move forward with a clearer mindset
You have no idea how liberating this is.
It literally changed my life.
Let me tell you the 3 reasons why I use it.
And how I use it.
1. Radical acceptance keeps my energy up throughout the day
Why?
Because it reduces mental tug-of-war.
Overthinking is all about battling with thoughts that can’t be changed.
Radical acceptance helps us see them without getting stuck.
In short, it eases mental struggles.
2. Radical acceptance cuts down on unnecessary worries.
Why?
Because you accept that some situations are beyond your control.
It’s like giving ourselves permission to stop worrying.
We simply accept that some things can’t be controlled.
So it becomes easier to move on.
3. Radical acceptance makes me kinder to myself.
Why?
Because it helps us see overthinking as part of the experience.
It’s not something strange or awkward.
It’s just part of the process.
So we become more compassionate toward ourselves.
And you know the power of self-compassion, right?
→ It reduces the cycle of negative self-judgment
The same judgment that often comes with overthinking.
Now the question is:
→ How do I use this magical Radical Acceptance?
Well, the answer is:
→ I just use it — I accept things for what they are
There’s no secret formula here.
Just be fully convinced.
→ “Um, convinced of what, Matty?”
Convinced that what’s happening is part of a bigger plan.
It’s part of the bigger gift we’ve received — life.
I personally see events as part of the equation of life.
Both good events and bad ones.
You don’t complain about seeing road signs on the street, right?
They’re just part of the system.
You don’t complain about seeing gray clouds in the sky, right?
They’re just part of nature.
At the same time, we don’t wanna complain about things we can’t control.
Just accept the current situation — and move forward.
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Alright!
Thanks for your question, Zahara.
Question of the day:
→ What makes your day more enjoyable?
Let me know in the comments :)
“Let’s build a more inclusive world by spreading wellbeing globally!”
– Matty