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Here We Are: My Friendship with Philip Roth Hardcover – May 19, 2020
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A deeply felt, beautifully crafted meditation on friendship and loss in the vein of A Year of Magical Thinking, and a touching portrait of Philip Roth from his closest friend.
I had a baseball question on the tip of my tongue: What was the name of "the natural," the player shot by a stalker in a Chicago hotel room? He gave me an amused look that darkened in-to puzzlement, then fear. Then he pitched forward into the soup, unconscious. When I entered the examining room twenty minutes after our arrival at Charlotte Hungerford Hospital, Philip said, "No more books." Thus he announced his retirement.
So begins Benjamin Taylor's Here We Are, the unvarnished portrait of his best friend and one of America's greatest writers. Needless to say, Philip Roth's place in the canon is secure, but what is less clear is what the man himself was like. In Here We Are, Benjamin Taylor's beautifully constructed memoir, we see him as a mortal man, experiencing the joys and sorrows of aging, reflecting on his own writing, and doing something we all love to do: passing the time in the company of his closest friend.
Here We Are is an ode to friendship and its wondrous ability to brighten our lives in unexpected ways. Benjamin Taylor is one of the most talented writers working today, and this new memoir pays tribute to his friend, in the way that only a writer can. Roth encouraged him to write this book, giving Taylor explicit instructions not to sugarcoat anything and not to publish it until after his death. Unvarnished and affectionately true to life, Taylor's memoir will be the definitive account of Philip Roth as he lived for years to come.
- Print length192 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherPenguin Books
- Publication dateMay 19, 2020
- Dimensions5.4 x 0.73 x 8.1 inches
- ISBN-100525505245
- ISBN-13978-0525505242
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“A poignant and frequently poetic tribute to a friendship abundant with laughter, erudition, generosity, devotion, and grace.” —Lisa Halliday, author of Asymmetry
“Benjamin Taylor and Philip Roth lived for a time in friendship -- that rare, true element. Like that friendship, this account is unsparing, yet loyal and kind. It is also funny. Here We Are made me laugh until its last pages. I was in tears when I closed the book. I had to read it over again, immediately. I'm grateful to have it." —Louise Erdrich, author of The Night Watchman
“...a loving, yet knowing, memoir.” —David Remnick, The New Yorker
“Rare and remarkable. A pleasure to read as a revival of Philip's presence, of course, but also as a beautifully novelistic study of two very different men converging on a shared set of obsessions and mutual comforts. Taylor preserves his hero without entombing him. It's Roth to the life.” —Adam Gopnik
"...fond and eloquent..." -- Michael Gorra, The New York Review of Books
“A great friendship, that chaste but ardent love, is perhaps also the great undertold story of human passion. Ben Taylor's memoir of his friendship with Philip Roth changes all that. This beauty of testimony, spangled with humor and edged with abiding grief and gratitude is a classic on first reading." —Patricia Hampl, author of The Florist's Daughter
"Roth died in 2018, leaving 31 books behind; like other Roth lovers, I will always want more. Benjamin Taylor’s new memoir, Here We Are, temporarily eases the loss by giving us more of Roth’s voice in conversation: brilliant, profane, and so very funny. . . There's an appealing quality of randomness to this slim memoir that makes it feel like we're tagging along with the two friends on their constant walks, talks and dinners in the dive restaurants Roth preferred on the Upper West Side, where anything could come up, sometimes even big revelations.” —Maureen Corrigan, NPR's Fresh Air
“Here We Are is permeated with love. Taylor writes masterfully about his best friend (as they called each other) and readers get to witness a kinder, more generous and loving Roth than they might have imagined. It’s a story of real life, or as Roth called it, 'the unwritten world.'”—Jewish Week
“[A] gorgeous new memoir...Taylor’s concise volume is a deeply loving, occasionally irreverent portrait of the artist. It’s also something of a paean to friendship itself. At this time of disconnection and disorientation, Taylor, president of the Edward Albee Foundation and a trustee of the John Simon Guggenheim Memorial Foundation, reminds us of the anchoring power of human connection.” —The Forward
“Taylor’s book is essential reading, an affectionate but never sentimental portrait of the furious, divisive, and comic personality who produced a handful of the past century’s finest novels.” —USA Today
“Beautifully written...Like Roth, Taylor is a terrific raconteur, and readers are likely to be as entertained by his opinions as those of the Pulitzer Prize winning novelist. An eloquent and touching account that should appeal to all who appreciate the value of true friendship.” —Library Journal (starred review)
“A brief but enjoyable journey through the life of a legendary author that seamlessly moves from discussing Roth’s works to relationships with such fellow writers as Saul Bellow and John Updike. This is not ponderous literary analysis, but a light and thoughtful examination of a great writer and how he performs his craft. More than anything, Taylor has produced a book about conversations and companionship.” —Bookreporter
"Affection burgeons from these pages." -- Le Figaro (Paris)
“This tender-hearted and eloquent paean to long-term friendships will hold special appeal among Roth fans.” —Publisher's Weekly
“Enchanting...Personal recollections and literary criticism animate this affecting homage to literary giant Philip Roth." —Shelf Awareness
“[I]n this slim, affectionate memoir, Taylor perfectly captures the essence of Roth’s charmingly enigmatic humor and complex behavior. He generously shares memories of their somewhat unexpected friendship, honing in on their quiet, often amusing moments together…A touching and entertaining portrait of Roth that is sure to delight his many readers.” —Kirkus Reviews
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Chapter One
No Model but Itself
Die in your prime and it is tragic. Die in your ninth decade and it is the debt paid, the quittance. Grief for those struck down too soon goes on and on. We are helplessly haunted by what might have been; a penumbra of vanished possibilities surrounds untimely death. But grief for the elderly is formal, stately. Most of all it is end-oriented.
You roll a boulder across the mouth of the cave.
You move on.
In The Ghost Writer, Nathan Zuckerman says of Felix Abravanel that the master's charm was "a moat so oceanic that you could not even see the great turreted and buttressed thing it had been dug to protect." Philip too could seem a beguiling but remote citadel: august, many-towered, lavishly defended. Those who reached the inner keep met there someone quite different from the persona devised for public purposes. Still vitally present at home was the young man he'd remained all along, full of satirical hijinks and gleeful ventriloquisms and antic fun building to crescendos. Imaginary relatives were a specialty. I recall for example Paprika Roth, a retired stripper living in the Florida Panhandle. A glint in the eye told you hilarity was on the road.
"Ben, do you remember when Mrs. Fischbein was on The $64,000 Question?"
"A little before my time, Philip."
"Well, Mrs. Fischbein had walloped the competition. She'd advanced to the sixty-four-thousand-dollar question itself. Came the drum roll and the announcer said, 'For sixty-four thousand dollars, Mrs. Fischbein, who was-the first man?' 'I wouldn't tell you for a million dollars!' cried Mrs. Fischbein."
The place of origin, Newark's Weequahic section, was his Great Code and Rosetta stone. I mean Weequahic as endlessly rediscovered through alchemical imagination, that flame turned up under experience for the smelting of novels. "Ours was not a neighborhood steeped in darkness," says Zuckerman in American Pastoral. "The place was bright with industriousness. There was a big belief in life and we were steered relentlessly in the direction of success: a better existence was going to be ours . . . Am I wrong to think we delighted in living there? No delusions are more familiar than those inspired in the elderly by nostalgia, but am I completely mistaken to think that living as well-born children in Renaissance Florence could not have held a candle to growing up within aromatic range of Tabachnik's pickle barrels? Am I mistaken to think that even back then, in the vivid present, the fullness of life stirred our emotions to an extraordinary extent? Has anywhere since so engrossed you in its ocean of details? The detail, the immensity of the detail, the force of the detail, the weight of the detail-the rich endlessness of detail surrounding you in your young life like the six feet of dirt that'll be packed on your grave when you're dead."
Philip spent his final three weeks in the cardiac intensive-care unit at New York-Presbyterian Hospital. A lot of women and a smattering of men surrounded him. We were friends, lovers, protgs, relatives, employees, representing every decade of his adult life. (This I know: When my time comes, the waiting room will not be crowded with ex-lovers.)
On the twenty-first day, the attending came out of Philip's room and said: "He is philosopher, no?"
"Yes," I said. And so it really was. Amid the general weeping, Philip was Socratic, as if instructing us, his loved ones, in how to die. He even remembered, like Socrates, a small debt owed-to Mrs. Solano, his housekeeper.
Near the end he asked for a moment alone with me and said something I wrote down as soon as I decently could: "I have been to see the great enemy, and walked around him, and talked to him, and he is not to be feared. I promise."
There had been earlier brushes with the great enemy, any one of which might have proved fatal. One occurred on August 22, 2012. Canadian geese were starting south. We'd gone to Litchfield for dinner and dressed up a bit for the occasion. Philip was in a sports jacket he claimed to have bought with the earnings from Goodbye, Columbus. (It may nearly have been so; he cared nothing for clothes.) Seated in our usual booth at the West Street Grill, we ordered the special soup, their gazpacho, sweet and crunchy with the local beefsteaks and cucumbers. I had a baseball question on the tip of my tongue: What was the name of "the natural," the player shot by a lady stalker in a Chicago hotel room? He gave me an amused look that darkened into puzzlement, then fear.
Then he pitched forward into the soup, unconscious. Too astounded for anything but composure, I summoned the management. Medics appeared almost immediately. As if by further magic, a stretcher sprang up from the floor to receive him, who though all but comatose was saying something: an attempt, entirely characteristic, at telling the medics how to do their job.
Moments later I was in the front seat of the ambulance beside the driver, with Philip and the two medics behind us. "Thready pulse," said one to the other. And then, to the driver: "Better turn on the siren." I thought, here is how it ends, and considered whom I would contact first. Thomas Mann's Aschenbach and the last line of Death in Venice came to mind, proving literature matters even in an emergency: "Before nightfall," writes Mann, "a shocked and respectful world received the news of his decease." Philip had equipped several of us with detailed instructions on how every aspect of his burial and memorial service should be handled. My mind veered to these.
Twenty minutes after our arrival at Charlotte Hungerford Hospital in Torrington, the ER physician explained that what Philip had suffered was an accumulated reaction to one of the drugs he'd been taking. When I entered the examining room Philip said, "No more books." At first I didn't know what he meant. What he meant, I shortly realized, was that Nemesis, his thirty-first, published two years earlier, would be his last. Thus he announced his retirement.
"You look right good for back from the dead," I told him.
"Just so we're clear," he said, "I did die." He had the sweetest smile sometimes. Now he took up the story he hadn't got to at dinner: In the summer of 1949, Eddie Waitkus, lefty All-Star with the Cubs, the Phillies, the Orioles and the Phillies again, was shot by a deranged admirer, Ruth Ann Steinhagen, in her room at the Edgewater Beach Hotel, to which she'd coaxed him with a letter: "Please come soon. I won't take much of your time. I promise."
Good as her word, she plugged him when he came through the door. Ruth Ann's plan had evidently been to shoot herself too in a Mayerling-style bloodbath, but she told the cops afterward that she couldn't find another bullet.
Eddie survived but never got his game back. Ruth Ann reported that after she shot him he'd said: "What'd you do that for, baby?" He spent the rest of his days wondering and died at fifty-three of esophageal cancer. Ruth Ann served a year in the madhouse at Kankakee and, released to the care of family, lived uneventfully for decades on Chicago's North Side, waiving off all queries.
What proved evergreen was "What'd you do that for, baby?"-endlessly applicable and between Philip and me a fresh source of laughter each time one of us said it. Is the quick of friendship here, in finding the same things lastingly funny? Because it was he, because it was I? "Such a friendship has no model but itself," says Montaigne, "and can only be compared to itself . . . And is some mysterious quintessence." Because it was he. Because it was I.
There was no dramatic arc to our life together. It was not like a marriage, still less like a love affair. It was as plotless as friendship ought to be. We spent thousands of hours in each other's company. He was fully half my life. I cannot hope for another such friend.
One of the many authors Philip read in his years of retirement was himself, everything from Brenda Patimkin asking Neil Klugman to hold her glasses to Bucky Cantor teaching his playground charges, thirty books later, how to throw the javelin. I believe he took a death-defying satisfaction in the vastness of what he'd wrought, a shelf of work augmenting the soul of the nation and built to outlast whatever unforeseeable chances and changes await us and our descendants.
"And then he hurled the javelin," Philip wrote at journey's end. "You could see each of his muscles bulging when he released it into the air. He let out a strangulated yowl of effort . . . a noise expressing the essence of him-the naked battle cry of striving excellence . . . Running with the javelin aloft, stretching his throwing arm back behind his body, bringing the throwing arm through to release the javelin high over his shoulder-and releasing it then like an explosion-he seemed to us invincible."
Chapter Two
The Dignity of an Elderly Gentleman
Delirious near the end, he said, "We're going to the Savoy!"-surely the jauntiest dying words on record. But it was Riverside Memorial Chapel, the Jewish funeral parlor at Amsterdam and Seventy-Sixth, we were bound for. I was obliged to reidentify the body once we arrived there from New York-Presbyterian. A lady undertaker pointed the way to the viewing room and said: "You may stay for as long as you like. But do not touch him." Duly draped, Philip looked serene on his plinth-like a Roman emperor, one of the good ones. I pulled up a chair and managed to say, "Here we are." Here we are at the promised end. A phrase from The Human Stain came to me: "the dignity of an elderly gentleman free from desire who behaves correctly." I wanted to tell him he was doing fine, that he was a champ at being dead, bringing to it all the professionalism he'd brought to previous tasks.
To talk daily with someone of such gifts had been a salvation. I'm not who I'd have been without him. "We've laughed so hard," he said to me some years ago. "Maybe write a book about our friendship." I take this as my warrant and write here without reticence, knowing the truth to be all that matters now.
Our conversation was about everything-novels, politics, families, dreams, sex, baseball, food, ex-friends, ex-lovers. But our keynote was American history, for which Philip was ravenous, consuming one big scholarly book after another. He became a great writer in the course of the eighties and especially the nineties when his novels became history-haunted. In the American trilogy, American Pastoral, I Married a Communist and The Human Stain, the heroes, Swede Levov, Ira Ringold and Coleman Silk, are solid men taken to pieces when the blindsiding force of history comes to call. Such was Philip's mature theme: unpredictable brutalities at large in the world and the illusoriness of ever being safe from them.
In keeping with the unseemliness of my profession (as he would say) I'd been taking notes all along. A lot of conversation got squirreled away. "Memories of the past," he wrote, "are not memories of facts but memories of your imaginings of the facts." Still, what I am struggling for in these pages is the fact of Philip as he was. He doesn't need me or anyone to ornament him. Imagination in memoir may indeed be inevitable, but I am treating it here as a trespasser and have tried at every turn to bar the way.
Writing a novel makes a god of you. Writing a memoir does not. This book is a nonfiction portrait and strives to be nothing else. In this kind of portraiture, the facts, not how you can metamorphose them, are what count-metamorphosis of the facts, the cardinal virtue of fiction, being the cardinal sin of memoir. Philip writes: "What one chooses to reveal in fiction is governed by a motive fundamentally aesthetic; we judge the author of a novel by how well he or she tells the story. But we judge morally the author of an autobiography, whose governing motive is primarily ethical as against aesthetic. How close is the narration to the truth? Is the author hiding his or her motives, presenting his or her actions and thoughts to lay bare the essential nature of conditions or trying to hide something, telling in order not to tell?" Is the author's presumed candor in fact a dance of the seven veils? All I can say is I am trying here for candor alone.
One day I reported on a strange case I'd been reading about. A man named Thomas Beer, who was Stephen Crane's first biographer, wove a tissue of creative lies, inventing loves and friendships that never were, even concocting virtuoso letters from Crane. It was fiction posing as fact. A succession of Crane scholars went charging down Beer's blind alleys.
"May his bad example haunt you," Philip said.
He was genuinely puzzled by gossips. "All the fun of a secret is in keeping it. Why blab?" Maybe he took this view because he'd been more victimized by gossip than other people. He was oversensitive and sometimes mistook genuine concern for idle chatter. One mutual friend particularly drew fire for talking to anyone who'd listen about a recent operation Philip had undergone. Orthopedic surgeries could be openly reported, but cardiac procedures were confidential. "Can you imagine? He told five more people after I told him to stop. All of whom called this afternoon." In our friend's defense, I said his gossiping was like a locomotive and could stop only gradually.
Secrets and deceptions of every kind appealed to Philip. He was not averse to cuckolding inattentive husbands. More wholesome opportunities for subterfuge were catnip too. Some years ago when I was submitting for publication a novel I'd written, he suggested I employ a pseudonym. We settled on Shoshana Lipshitz, a winner by the sound of the curriculum vitae we concocted: four years at Hotchkiss, women's studies and astronomy at Harvard, an internship at The Paris Review, Romance languages, European wanderings, the whole bit. We decided she was very pretty, a Natalie Portman type. To top it off, I proposed an archeological year in Mesoamerica but Philip said we were getting carried away.
"Maybe publishers won't like being fooled like this," I said. "They know how to google." For our part, we googled what turned out to be a small army of Shoshana Lipshitzes, variously active in the world. Thus our ruse, doomed to quick exposure had we launched it, died at birth.
While he was my best friend, and I his, there were rooms in the fortress of secrets marked P. Roth that I know I was excluded from. This goes both ways, but he was an incomparable student of inner lives, of what's invisibly afoot. He managed to figure out more about me than I ever could about him. It need hardly be said that we weren't equals, and not just because he was twenty years older. His love acted on me, as on everyone, like a truth serum. He possessed the terrible gift of intimacy. He caused people to tell things they told no one else. His mineral-hard stare was impossible to hide from.
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- Hardcover : 192 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0525505245
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Thank you Benjamin for doing the hard work of beautiful writing, and true friendship.
"There was no dramatic arc to our life together. It was not like a marriage, still less like a love affair. It was plotless as friendship ought to be. We spent thousands of hours in each other's company. He was fully half my life. I cannot hope for another such friend."
I so envy Ben Taylor that friendship. I began reading Roth's work more than fifty years ago, beginning with PORTNOY'S COMPLAINT, a book which, at twenty-five, I found hilarious. Indeed, years later, Roth himself called it "a young man's book." Since then I have probably read more than a dozen Roth novels, as well as his memoir, PATRIMONY, about his family and his father's last days. More recently I read EVERYMAN, a much darker, sadder story which looked at aging, including the indignities of incontinence and impotence following a prostatectomy. It was a far cry from the antics of Alex Portnoy. In fact, I would go so far as to call it "an old man's book."
Taylor manages to be very even-handed in his portrayal of his friend, noting how vindictive and petty Roth could be, especially in his attitudes toward his two marriages and both ex-wives. He remained angry at his first wife, even after her death in an auto accident after they had separated. He even went so far as to call the man driving the car, who suffered only a minor injury, "My emancipator." Taylor points out that perhaps both wives had reason for divorcing Roth, calling him "undomesticatable." He quotes Roth as having told him, "Monogamy would not have been in me had I lived in the era of Cotton Mather. As it was, I lived in the era of SCREW magazine and Linda Lovelace." At the same time, however, Taylor's portrayal of their friendship shows how likable and human Roth could also be. They shared hundreds of meals together, often at second-rate restaurants, places Roth seemed to like. They watched movies together, although both had their own tastes. Roth hated attending live theater, but enjoyed hearing Taylor tell about it. And there seemed to be little vanity in the man, as "he cared nothing for clothes." Taylor describes Roth the private man as -
"... someone quite different from the persona devised for public purposes. Still vitally present at home was the young man he'd remained all along, full of satirical hijinks and gleeful vetriloquisms and antic fun building to crescendos ... A glint in the eye told you hilarity was on the way."
During my own college years, along with Roth, I also discovered Malamud, Bellow and Updike. So I was delighted to run across bits of conversations here about Roth's friendships with the latter two writers. Malamud is referenced only in a glancing way, with a question from Taylor about the name of the baseball player in THE NATURAL. Roth later answers, in a very roundabout way, telling of the probable basis for Malamud's novel, a real player with the 1949 Cubs who was shot in a hotel room by an ardent admirer.
In another conversation, Roth tells about how he wrote that now so prescient book, THE PLOT AGAINST AMERICA (2004), noting that FDR was the only president he knew for the first twelve years of his life, and, remembering Lindbergh's fascist leanings and "America First" campaign -
"I plunged all the familiar details into a counter-historical nightmare. I spent four years on the book, 2000-2004, and every night before drifting off I'd say to myself, 'Don't invent. Remember.'"
So yes, there are politics in here too. He despised the Dubya Bush presidency, as evidenced in EXIT GHOST, the last of the Zuckerman novels. And religion - "the refuge of the weak-minded."
There are so many more things in this slim little volume that moved me, making me laugh one moment, and nearly moving me to tears the next. Most notably this, in the last chapter, which details the final days of Philip Roth, and the multiple heart procedures he had endured -
"At our leave-taking, I said, 'You have been the joy of my life.' 'And you of mine,' he replied. I bent forward. He briefly put a hand on my head."
HERE WE ARE is, quite simply, a beautiful book, about an unlikely friendship, full of joy and laughter, tears and pain. I loved it. And so, finally, here we are. Thank you for writing it all down, Ben. And R.I.P., Philip. My very highest recommendation.
- Tim Bazzett, author of the memoir, BOOKLOVER
This book is not a long one, and could easily be read in one sitting. It is a poetic portrait of Roth’s career, but also a poetic memoir of the friendship that blossomed between Roth and Taylor; their loves, navigating their lives, and also the timeline of his oeuvre as it is released into the world. Taylor’s prose is light in words and heavy in meaning. His relationship with Roth is clearly and beautifully succinct, tracing their early years through several moments of panic in the back of an ambulance as Roth gives directions to the driver on how to get to his preferred hospital. This is a book of pure love. One that uses his literary releases and marriages as a roadmap to a semblance of nirvana; a nirvana that by the end of his life was the perfect settlement of time, place, and relationships that could only be his.
As a writer, I was interested in his career, of course. The book advances that are no longer, the homes, the book tours... But for Taylor, these are ignored as the meaningless trappings of his career. Taylor treats us to the true emotional vibrations of a life, the inspirations and the powertrain of his true Great American Novels, and the workings of experience that lead to a life that makes his one that feels like it matters – as if every C rating that hangs in the window of their favorite Manhattan deli is a worse fate than the four divorces that brought us together for the sandwich we’re enjoying for whatever time we have left.
This is a spectacular portrait of true love; that of a writer and a dear friend.
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Here We Are: My Friendship with Philip Roth by Benjamin Taylor is exactly what the title says or should’ve been. It started off with so much promise – the first two chapters of a rather small book, and then you got to see the promise only in the last two chapters and that was that. I expected more. I expected glimpses into their friendship, but all I got was Benjamin Taylor gushing over Roth’s works. Well, it is a literary memoir, but then why tell us that it is a friendship with Roth, and then not reveal enough to feel something.
This is the second book read this year, and once again not very impressed by it. The writing like I said shines in places, and leaves you wanting more. Taylor speaks of Roth and his thoughts on being Jewish in the world. Of his characters, his parents (very briefly), his wives (again not too much other than speaking of Claire Bloom), and about being an atheist and such. But never does he speak of what it was to be his friend and vice-versa, except till the very end. Taylor knows so much about Roth, and yet the reader is left with nothing. There are several literary references – more than enough books (Roth’s and others’) that are mentioned. It makes for a great reading list but that’s about it.