She, a Chinese

I don't understand all the praise for this picture and awarding it at the festival - what for? On the one hand, I feel pity for the main character who is so unlucky with men and love life, or actually sex life because there was merely any love in those relationships; on the other hand, however, I am convinced that she is to blame for her own fate: most of her decisions to start the relationships were totally inconsiderate. Was she so naive or so stupid? I believe that everyone is responsible for one's actions, and if we happen to make a mistake, we should learn from it. This was something that Li Mei doesn't do. I also can't help the impression that while the girl is portrayed as an innocent and pure creature, a victim, all the men around her turn out to be bad primitive beasts, who are incapable of true love. This is not real life!