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Thank you nephew. Subject he can't talk without touching me.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I met a man online and he's
a decent guy with a good job and a great
set of friends. We've gone on double dates with my
friends and his friends, and I did that because that's
how you get.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
To really know a person.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
The drawback of it is that my friends also get
to point out the bad things about my man. We
had a double date with my best friend and her
man and my best He said that it's too soon
for my man to be as hands on as he is,
meaning he can't talk without touching me. She said he
was going to start pressuring me for sex too soon.
She was spot on with that one, so I couldn't
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be mad at her. The second date was with my
cousin and her husband, and my cousin's husband that the
guy shouldn't be grabbing my butt in.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Public like that because it's tasteless.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I did not care what he said, because I know
he's not a romantic type of guy from what my
cousin has said about him. But when I'm alone with
my new man and in public, he really can't talk
without putting his hands on my body. In the car,
he wants to hold my hand and drive with his
left hand. He has his hand on my thigh when
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we're having dinner, and if we're at a bar having
a drink, he will slide my chair right up beside
him so he can rub my shoulder or have his
hand in various places on my body. We met seven
weeks ago and we haven't been intimate, but like my
bestie said, he's already itching to have sex. The final
straw for me was when he put his hand between
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my legs and a restaurant and asked if he could
have it. I asked what it was. It's a complete
and utter turn off. Do I throw away the man
for this? One flaw or is this something we can
work on. He doesn't do well with subtle hints. Oh,
he's a little out of control doing that in public
and at a restaurant. But the most important thing here
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is what you're comfortable with.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And that's all.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
If you don't want this man that you've only been
dating for seven weeks to have his hands all over
you and you shouldn't, why don't you say something to him?
Why don't you tell him to stop, move his hands away?
It is very disrespectful of him to be touching you
so inappropriately and in front of your friends.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
And family like that. How have you let it go
this long?
Speaker 1 (02:45):
That's my question to you. If you don't want him
to do it to you, then don't let him do
it to you. You've got to be realistic, though. I mean,
he's a man who is obviously attracted to you, and
I'm sure he feels seven weeks is a long time
on his calendar. He's ready to get busy, but clearly
you're not because you're still trying to get to know him.
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But you got to remember, I mean, it's simple. This
is your body, and if you're not slapping, stopping him
or slapping him, and you're not saying anything about his
touching you.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
He's not gonna stop.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
You gotta tell him if that's what you want. If
he leaves because you spoke up for yourself, then let
him go. If he stays, tell him you don't want
him touching you like that anymore. You want to get
to know him, and you guys need to slow down.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Steve, Oh, this letter, it's so common sense. It's just
Shirley's absolutely correct in what she's said. This let us
it's really what you want. But you're not conveying this
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to the man. So what you want him to do?
Because right now, this dude, he don't think you do
it nothing wrong, but you think the man is wrong.
And now I'm gonna tell you where I'm gonna tell you. Well,
let me show you a couple of things. Just let him.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
You met this man online.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
He's a decent guy, got a good job, gray, set
of friends who go on double dates with friends and
his friends, my friends and his friends. I did that
because that's how you get to really know a person. Okay,
that's a good idea, because you got to see how
it interacts with other people. Other people's opinion of him,
his opinion of your friends that said good death. The
drawback is that my friends also get to point out
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the bad things about my man. Well didn't you just
say that's why you went out with him, so you
can get to know him, and sometimes you can get
Your friend's opinions can matter, but they shouldn't, but they
can depend on who the friend is.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
See, we had a.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Double date with my best friend and her man and
my best He said that it's too soon for my
man to be hands on as he is, meaning he
can't talk without touching me. She said he was gonna
start pressing me for sex too soon. Uh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah because why because that's what we do. That's why
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he dating you. He dating you to have sex. That's
why all men date you. Is this a secret? And
is this a new book? All men date you because
they want to have sex with you. I have a
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shaker for you. Y'all dating men because y'all want to
have sex with them? That tada, yeah, take them frowns
off y'all's face on this zoom. Yeah, that's why you
date men. Now, y'all not gonna out with lys say
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that because you want some other things too, of course,
but at the bottom line, you know what this bout stop?
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Come on, now, how we gonna.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Have a family. I want to get married one day.
I want to have a family. We know what we're
gonna have to do, then let's get to doing it.
That's what this is all about. She was spot on
with that when her girlfriend he was gonna pressure me
to have sex? That ain't she brilliant? So I couldn't
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be mad with her. The second day was with my
cousin and her husband said. Her husband said, the guy
shouldn't be grabbing my buddy in public like.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
That because it's tastes.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
That is tastess grab hangout, but in front of people,
that's tasteles.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
It is hang on, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
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recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is he can't talk
without touching me.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Yeah, I know, lady, And you've been out with your
friends with him and everything, and theyden told you he's
a little touching too much because he gonna press you
for sex. She was right about that. Duh, Yeah, he
is going to ask you for sex eventually. I think
you note that. That's why both y'all was online. You
get online so you can find a relationship. But in
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order to be in a relationship, you're going to have
to relate. Are you feeling like you own a ship.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
And analogy?
Speaker 3 (08:07):
What it rocks back and forth?
Speaker 4 (08:12):
You online to get into a relationship. Okay, to be
in a relationship, you have to have a relay shun
with someone, and it's got to feel like y'all own
a ship.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Because the ship.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Rocks back and forth. That's what a relationship is. Two
people that can relate to each other till it gets
so good y'all start rocking back and forth. That's the relationship.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Wow, my god, we can't home. We can't see that. Huh.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Now, what the hell?
Speaker 4 (08:52):
Now? Your girlfriend talking about he two hands on? He
gonna want to have sex soon? Yes he is, Yeah,
he gonna.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Want to not soon now been seven weeks.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
She was spot on with that, so I couldn't be
mad at her. The second day, my cousin and her husband.
Her cousin husband said the guy shouldn't be grabbing my
butty in public like that because it's tasteless. That's true.
Tasteless is true. But your other cousin though, telling you
he gonna press you for sex. That's what he supposed
to do. Why is this her damn busin and stuff?
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Didn't her husband press her for sex one day?
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Didn't she have it?
Speaker 4 (09:29):
I did not care what he said, because I know
he's not a romantic type of a guy. Okay, but
you did care what the other lady said, what my
cousin has said. But when I'm alone with my new
man and in public, he really can't talk without putting
his hands on my body. In the car, he want
to hold my hand to drive with the left hand.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Damn.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Maybe it ain't just your cousin's husbands that ain't romantic.
Maybe you ain't romantic, Keith, it sick a man want
to hold your hand while he driving. Damn, most women
go wild. That is so nice. He wants to hold
my hand while they driving. Don't what as you touching me? Folk?
He has his hand on my thigh when we have
in dinner, and if we had a ball having a drink,
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he would slide my chair right up next to him
so he could rub my shoulder or have his hands
in various places on my body. Billy, we met seven
weeks ago and we haven't been intimate. But like my
bestie said, he's already itching to half sex. Already. Where
did you come to you? After seven weeks? He was
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ready for that long time ago. Now I ad MyD
you for waiting and trying to get to know the man,
and kind of pushes you towards that ninety day rule
I created, and it makes a little bit of sense.
But at seven weeks he's pressing. He's pressing now the
final straw for me was when he put his hand
between my legs and the restaurant.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Wait a mane, hold of black, hold on, hold on.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
There's been a whole lot of touching going on for
seven week Why are you still going out with him?
If this is so repulsive, If this touches you're seven
weeks and touching. Now, he'd have been on your thigh,
he'd have been on your shoulders. He ain't been all
up in your hair. He'd have been on your kneecap.
He'd had your hand when he driving. Now y'all in
the restaurant. Now you're talking about the final straw. He
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don't put his hands between your legs. We had to
promise land. Now we ad the Holy Grail. We in
front of the Grand Canyon.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
You have made your point.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
Right there at Niagara Falls, we at Victoria Lake. We
are the Empire State. We are one of the seven
Wonders of the world. That's number eight right there, And
all of y'all have one the eighth wonders of the world.
And I began, if it ain't one of the most
wonderful wonders I've ever seen, I've been to the Grand Canyon.
He ain't got nothing that grand cany, ain't got nothing
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on that thing. Ain't nothing nothing. I've been to Niagara Falls.
I'd rather be standing in front of a fine woman
than to be a Naga fall. I'm telling you right now,
it ain't all that I've seen the Empire State. I've
been to Victoria Lakes, I've been to all the places.
Ain't nothing like standing right there in front of me.
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I'm just telling you it's something.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I think we got it. I really do, well.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
I don't think you do. I'm painting this picture now.
I only got a many left, so let me go
and get to this. He put his hand between my
leg and the restaurant and asked if he could have it.
I asked what it was?
Speaker 2 (12:44):
You know?
Speaker 4 (12:44):
Good? Hell?
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Well, what it is? What is your playing, stupid fall?
I'm sick of your little dumb ass letter. What is it?
You know exactly what it is?
Speaker 4 (12:54):
You know what he doing?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
What is it to me? What is it is? Why
we here?
Speaker 1 (13:03):
This?
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Why jam? Why I'm driving this? Why I leave today?
Speaker 4 (13:09):
This?
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Why spend money on this soup?
Speaker 4 (13:11):
This?
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Why bought this day? By?
Speaker 4 (13:14):
Look?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Well he kills It's the reason that the world go round?
What do you mean? What do you mean? What is it?
Speaker 4 (13:23):
You is?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
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