What’s the Butter Churner Sex Position? Allow Us to Explain.

Don’t worry, the butter churner sex position has nothing to do with actual butter or any spreadable food item (unless you’re into that, in which case, go forth!). But it is a challenging sex position that involves a shoulder stand, a squat, and body parts in formations they’re not usually in, so we wouldn’t necessarily call it beginner friendly. The payoff? When both partners are down to put in the effort, the butter churner position offers deep, direct stimulation for vaginas and prostates. Not to mention the adrenaline rush that comes with trying something different and, honestly, pretty difficult!

So how do you do it? (*cracks knuckles, big exhale*) The receiver—aka the “butter” in this scenario—lies on their back and rolls back onto their shoulders, lifting up their butt and legs like they’re doing a shoulder stand in yoga. The giver—aka the “churner”—squats over their partner’s butt, using their leg muscles to support their weight. For penetrative sex, the giver can plunge up and down or make circles with their hips.

If this sounds like the infamous piledriver position, you’re not wrong. The difference is in the receiver’s leg placement. In piledriver, they swing their legs all the way back behind their head. You don’t have to go so hard with butter churner, but they’re similar in that it’s the kind of position you try just because you can. Or at least, maybe you can. If you can’t, go back to your regular favorites—zero shame!

“Most people tend to have sex in a few basic position—some variation of missionary, cowgirl, doggy, and sometimes spooning or side-by-side—so don’t let FOMO get to you,” says Suzannah Weiss, resident sexologist for Fleshy and author of Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. “This is really for the fun of attempting an impressive feat. You’re not missing out on some otherworldly orgasm that only this position offers.”

If something doesn’t feel right, feel free to stop the churning at any time. You can always start off in this position and transition to another, like doggy or standing. “In general, do not take this too seriously; laugh and have a sense of humor if you fumble,” says Weiss.

Up for the challenge? We put together detailed instructions on how to do the butter churner and variations that’ll help you adjust to whatever works for you.