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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Audible Audiobook – Unabridged

Adele Faber (Author), Elaine Mazlish (Author), Susan Bennett (Narrator),
4.7 4.7 out of 5 stars 11,776 ratings
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“This parenting book actually made me a better parent.” (Lydia Kiesling, The New York Times)

From number-one New York Times best-selling authors, the ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) - a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child.

This best-selling classic by internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children includes fresh insights and suggestions, as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:

  • Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
  • Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
  • Engage your child’s willing cooperation
  • Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
  • Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
  • Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
  • Resolve family conflicts peacefully

Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, Faber and Mazlish’s down-to-earth, respectful approach makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.

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  1. Part of series
    How To Talk
  2. Listening Length
    8 hours and 24 minutes
  3. Author
    Adele Faber, see all
  4. Narrator
    Susan Bennett
  5. Audible release date
    May 2, 2012
  6. Language
    English
  7. Publisher
    Simon & Schuster Audio
  8. ASIN
    B007ZT6RHY
  9. Version
    Unabridged
  10. Program Type
    Audiobook
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Listening Length 8 hours and 24 minutes
Author Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
Narrator Susan Bennett
Whispersync for Voice Ready
Audible.com Release Date May 02, 2012
Publisher Simon & Schuster Audio
Program Type Audiobook
Version Unabridged
Language English
ASIN B007ZT6RHY
Best Sellers Rank #353 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals)
#2 in Relationship Conflict Resolution
#3 in Conflict Management
#5 in Emotions

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Customers find the book provides practical advice and clear concepts to help parents better communicate with their children. They appreciate the straightforward, honest, and simple explanations that make everything make perfect sense. The book helps readers feel more confident in parenting and provides a different approach to dealing with kids. They find the techniques effective and work well even on adults. Readers mention the emotional intelligence advice and emotional coaching are helpful for becoming more empathetic.

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518 customers mention "Advice level"518 positive0 negative

Customers find the book provides practical advice to improve relationships with children. They appreciate the clear concepts and philosophy presented in it. The advice is useful for parents to have and reference. Readers say it gives them an eye-opener on different ways to handle parenting situations.

"...by presenting the material in an easy-read/comic form with a multitude of examples...." Read more

"...Plus there's real-life scenarios for things that many of us parent's can relate to which is helpful to bring it into the real world and not just..." Read more

"...most about this book is all the actionable steps provided, plus parents' stories that make me feel less alone in this "maddening" parenting journey...." Read more

"The foundational concepts in this book are helpful and can be translated to today’s challenges, but you can definitely tell the majority of the book..." Read more

357 customers mention "Communication"344 positive13 negative

Customers find the book helpful for parents who want to improve their communication with kids. It provides good points on how to talk and listen when kids have difficult feelings. The tools in the book help parents and children feel important and open up. The author brings a lot of inflection to her reading, making it anything but dry. The book teaches you how to change your language when talking to your child to decrease anger. As a result, they are more open to talking to you and keeping you in their lives. The clear concepts that build a philosophy of interacting with children and honestly with people are presented in an easy-to-read and remember way.

"...authors make understanding simple, by presenting the material in an easy-read/comic form with a multitude of examples...." Read more

"...I like the straight forward writing and the summary section at the end of each chapter...." Read more

"This book is full of easy to digest tips about effective 1-1 communication techniques...." Read more

"...It will change your perspective of talking to ur children and u will better understand your child" Read more

170 customers mention "Ease of use"155 positive15 negative

Customers find the book straightforward and easy to understand. They appreciate the quick reference guides that break up the text and make the concepts clear. The psychology behind the advice is laid out clearly, and the suggested parenting methods are easy to put into practice. The book helps readers better understand what they say and how it affects their children.

"...the authors concepts, they make perfect sense, and the authors make understanding simple, by presenting the material in an easy-read/comic form with..." Read more

"...There's a nice workbook area in each chapter which is so handy so you can truly work out your own thoughts/feelings throughout to get practice on it..." Read more

"What I love most about this book is all the actionable steps provided, plus parents' stories that make me feel less alone in this "maddening"..." Read more

"This book is full of easy to digest tips about effective 1-1 communication techniques...." Read more

86 customers mention "Parenting advice"79 positive7 negative

Customers find the book's parenting advice helpful. It provides a different approach to dealing with kids that makes sense. They say it aligns with their priorities as parents and helps decrease stress and tantrums in the house.

"...better communication....not to mention a more satisfying & less stressful family life. What could be better than that?" Read more

"...worked and our child seems much happier, talkative and her confidence has gone up, as well as ours as parents...." Read more

"...The most shocking part of the book is that they do not believe in punishment or consequences, a totally new idea for me...." Read more

"...This makes me so much more confident in my parenting than before!" Read more

72 customers mention "Effectiveness"63 positive9 negative

Customers find the book's techniques effective. They say it works well with adults and kids, providing immediate results.

"...our five-year old son for the past few years, and it's always worked pretty well...." Read more

"...They really work!" Read more

"...So far, it’s working really well...." Read more

"Great for parents who want to gentle parent. Has been working well with my school aged child." Read more

51 customers mention "Emotional intelligence"51 positive0 negative

Customers find the book's emotional intelligence advice practical and helpful. It helps them become more empathetic, accepting their feelings, and knowing they are valid. They appreciate the overarching theme of kindness with discipline and mindfulness as an underlying message. The book provides practical, real ways to relate and communicate with everyone.

"...After all, conscientious, loving and well-meaning parents need help, too, and this book can provide just that...." Read more

"...The authors recognize that parents are people and have real feelings, so their advice never feels shaming or patronizing...." Read more

"Age-old advice, emotion-coaching, “get out of your own way” practical parenting advice. I need to re-read this and give a copy to all my friends!..." Read more

"...tips and tools in this book that help parents and children listen, feel important, open up and encourage independence...." Read more

47 customers mention "Cartoons"37 positive10 negative

Customers appreciate the cartoon situations and comic strip-style examples in the book. They find the cartoon explanations helpful and the format helps them absorb the take-home message quickly. The book is described as funny yet informative, with stories and examples that keep it interesting without being dull.

"...understanding simple, by presenting the material in an easy-read/comic form with a multitude of examples...." Read more

"A superbly written book with funny yet phenomenally informative and instructive and practical information that a reader can use immediately to..." Read more

"...of the book with the dialogue, explanation and cartoons helps you find the information you need fast and absorb it in a method that works best for..." Read more

"...This book is really great. At first it can seem really ....well... cheesy. But when you actually apply the methods.... man oh man is it cool...." Read more

30 customers mention "Exercise content"30 positive0 negative

Customers appreciate the book's exercises. They find the scenarios, illustrations, and exercises helpful for understanding better than reading words alone. The simple activities in each section provide feedback and are practical, experiential. Readers enjoy learning the tools and tactics laid out in the book. Overall, they describe it as an interactive and enjoyable read.

"...telling parents to just be more patient, it actually provides simple things you can do and say (seriously, exact words and phrases) in the moment...." Read more

"...] This isn’t just a good read but also a good activity book...." Read more

"...my child and I am grateful for the new perspective and the little exercises it offered...." Read more

"...There are exercises in it and they are opening my eyes to a lot of the language I use with kids." Read more

Absolutely a must for parents, educators and leaders
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Absolutely a must for parents, educators and leaders
A superbly written book with funny yet phenomenally informative and instructive and practical information that a reader can use immediately to effectively communicate with children as well as with any adult. Great job!
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  • Goingdancing
    5.0 out of 5 stars This and "Siblings Without Rivalry"....two thumbs up.
    Reviewed in the United States on December 22, 2016
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    This book became my parenting "Bible" when my kids were younger, along with "Siblings Without Rivalry" (by the same authors), which is another must-have. I just happened to pick this up in a bookstore many years ago, and have been recommending it ever since. I should say here, that I was a School Psychologist, who also utilized these communication skills when dealing with students. I read where someone said in their review "Nothing I didn't know". Well, we all know some pieces of it...not to scream, not to belittle, not to condemn...but not everyone knows what to do instead. It's also important that you remember the title of the book is "How To Talk So kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk". It's about communicating better, and improving interpersonal skills. If you have a problem with your child seriously abusing drugs, then I'd suggest that you read this while your child is receiving appropriate treatment. It's not a "cure-all' for every possible issue.... although many (myself included) would say that poor communication can certainly be a causal factor behind many other "behaviors".
    Once you understand & integrate the authors concepts, they make perfect sense, and the authors make understanding simple, by presenting the material in an easy-read/comic form with a multitude of examples. After all, conscientious, loving and well-meaning parents need help, too, and this book can provide just that. If you just feel like you're not connecting with your child, and they're turning away from you rather than allowing you to be a support for them, try reading this. You don't have much to lose (a little time reading & a little bit of $) and you might find that a small change in YOUR behavior can lead to a big change in theirs (I did), and open the door to better communication....not to mention a more satisfying & less stressful family life. What could be better than that?
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  • itstabbyjo
    5.0 out of 5 stars 11/10 Parenting Book
    Reviewed in the United States on September 30, 2024
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    I recommend this book to all current or aspiring parents to read, especially those who have toddlers and have some trying times in the future. There's a nice workbook area in each chapter which is so handy so you can truly work out your own thoughts/feelings throughout to get practice on it all. Plus there's real-life scenarios for things that many of us parent's can relate to which is helpful to bring it into the real world and not just read it and forget about it within the next 10 minutes. It talks a lot about bringing yourself down from those big feelings and allowing your child to feel them, but also helping them work through those feelings themselves.
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  • Bao Frey
    5.0 out of 5 stars Great book with actionable steps
    Reviewed in the United States on May 29, 2024
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    What I love most about this book is all the actionable steps provided, plus parents' stories that make me feel less alone in this "maddening" parenting journey. I like the straight forward writing and the summary section at the end of each chapter. I would recommend this book to anybody who has toddler that started to talk!
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  • Joni Rozich
    4.0 out of 5 stars Dated but helpful
    Reviewed in the United States on September 19, 2024
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    The foundational concepts in this book are helpful and can be translated to today’s challenges, but you can definitely tell the majority of the book was written a while ago. Lots of opportunity for self reflection and role playing. Overall I’d recommend to friends.
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  • Zakhar Shapurau
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book about effective non-violent communication
    Reviewed in the United States on December 3, 2024
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    This book is full of easy to digest tips about effective 1-1 communication techniques. These techniques should be effective in any relationship - family, work, friends. I'm yet to find a better primer on "how to respectfully communicate about mutual challenges and related feelings" anywhere else.
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  • Haylee
    5.0 out of 5 stars Eye opener on parenting!!!!
    Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2024
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    I absolutely love this book! As I started parenthood I was about to branch out to this book which was recommended by friends! This books as giving me an eye opener on different way to go about each situation with parenting that I didn’t get to experience!!! I 1000% reccommend!!!
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  • Amazon_user4
    5.0 out of 5 stars Wow what a book!
    Reviewed in the United States on December 25, 2024
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    It has so content to teach parents on how to behave with kids
    It will change your perspective of talking to ur children and u will better understand your child
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  • aniroche22
    5.0 out of 5 stars The Most Practical Parenting Book I've Ever Read!
    Reviewed in the United States on December 19, 2023
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    I cannot say enough good things about this book. I picked it up while visiting my sister and couldn't put it down! Each chapter focuses on relevant and practical parenting issues and gives clear and manageable advice. Instead of telling parents to just be more patient, it actually provides simple things you can do and say (seriously, exact words and phrases) in the moment. You can practice these tips and get better, which is really encouraging.

    It also doesn't beat you up for failing. The authors recognize that parents are people and have real feelings, so their advice never feels shaming or patronizing. I found this particularly refreshing because authors of parenting books usually seem perfect and are totally unrelatable.

    I have found that my mindset has shifted quite a bit since reading this book. I'm actually planning to pick it up and go through it again to help reinforce the techniques. I HIGHLY recommend reading this!
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  • Taylor
    5.0 out of 5 stars Great book
    Reviewed in Canada on December 18, 2024
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    Great book, lots of good ideas
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  • ana figueroa quintana
    5.0 out of 5 stars Lecciones Magistrales
    Reviewed in Spain on December 12, 2024
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    Me lo recomendaron en un hospital de referencia de EE.UU., y es realmente bueno. Las recomendaciones son buenísimas, y explicadas de manera amena, dinámica, muy práctica y, muy importante, sin culpabilizar a quienes lo hacíamos regular hasta ahora. Lectura altamente recomendable para padres, profesores, entrenadores.. y en general, para cualquiera con ganas de aprender a entender y hacerse entender por niños y adolescentes!!
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  • Kindle Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Inspiring and life saver book
    Reviewed in France on November 4, 2024
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    This book is so inspiring and refreshing. It saved my family life and relationships with my kids. The advice provided are practical and work even with small kids. I totally recommend!
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  • Jaiswal
    5.0 out of 5 stars Informative
    Reviewed in India on April 20, 2024
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    Liked the simple strategies and suggestions for different situations while handling the kids. Good for teachers also.
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  • Mariam
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very useful
    Reviewed in the United Arab Emirates on November 18, 2020
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    Very informative! Opens your eyes and changes the way you talk and engage woth kids
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